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33 gorgeous photos from the massively popular Instagrammer who follows his wife around the world


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Back in 2012, photographer Murad Osmann (@muradosmann) started an Instagram account, and his pictures went viral.

It became known as the "follow me" Instagram, because in every picture Murad — the photographer — is being led by his gorgeous girlfriend — Natalia Zakharova — to some exciting destination.

Osmann just married Zakharova in a gorgeous ceremony which he broadcast to his 2.7 million Instagram followers. 

But the couple is still traveling the world together, and Zakharova is still leading her now husband by the hand.

From Paris's Eiffel Tower to Jordan's Dead Sea, here are 33 gorgeous photos from the world-traveling couple.

Here's Murad, the photographer, as captured by his wife, Natalia.

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And here's Natalia in front of the Louvre on her birthday last year. Natalia also has her own Instagram account (@yourleo) with plenty of followers — 474,000 to be exact.

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In July of last year, Murad proposed to Natalia, and happily reported in the caption, "She said YES!!!"

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These are the only shoes guys need for summer


Warm weather means a switch up in your footwear rotation.

No more hightops and boots. Instead, low profiles and moc toes dominate the scene. Ranging from the super sporty summer shoe to the very conservative wingtip, we have 6 of the most popular shoe styles a guy can throw on his feet in the warmer months.

The selection below is all you need to take you through to September. Many of these styles require socklessness. For an easy way to hack that look, check out our full guide.

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17 clever Father's Day gifts under $50


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This Father's Day, you don't have to break the bank to show dad how much you care.

From personalized accessories to thoughtful books to a classic bottle of bourbon, we rounded up budget-friendly gifts that every dad will love — all under $50.

His flight will be ultra-relaxing after an old fashioned — or two.

Price: $24

Give dad the first-class treatment — even if he's flying economy — with this carry-on cocktail kit. Complete with bitters, cane sugar, and a stirring spoon, he'll have everything he needs for a proper old fashioned. Just add alcohol.

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Coasters made from vintage records add a fun touch to his home.

Price: $16.70 

Perfect for any music lover, these coasters made from vintage records will fill dad with a rush of nostalgia every time he sets down his drink. Not to mention they're also incredibly practical.

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A Roku puts all his favorite shows in one place.

Price: $49.99

Dad will love having all his favorite shows in one place with a Roku. The device offers hundreds of free channels, allows users to stream services like Netflix and Hulu through their TV, and connects to Google Play and Amazon instant video, making it easy to rent any title.  

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There's a cool new thing tech billionaires are spending millions on instead of Ferraris and private islands


Pablo Picasso's "Les femmes d'Alger

On May 11, an anonymous buyer at Christie's in New York set a record when they placed a bid for $179.4 million for "Les femmes d'Alger (Version 'O')," a vibrant canvas painted by Pablo Picasso in 1955.

It was the most anyone had ever paid for a single work of art at an auction. 

Though we don't know who the buyer was, only a select group of people could reasonably afford such a splurge. As a recent New York Times article points out, if you assume no one would spend more than 1% of their net worth on a piece of art, the buyer would need to have a fortune of at least $17.9 billion.

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Many of today's wealthiest people have made their fortunes in tech. Bill Gates, Larry Ellison, and Paul Allen are all tech moguls ranking in the top 50 of Forbes' billionaire list. They are also all known to have extensive art collections worth hundreds of thousands of dollars. 

Ellison, for example, has a collection of Japanese art and artifacts that reportedly contains as many as 500 pieces. 

Gates, on the other hand, paid $36 million for Winslow Homer's "Lost on the Grand Banks" in 1998. The painting hangs on a wall outside of his library, near another piece of art, Childe Hassam's "Room of Flowers," that's worth at least $20 million.

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Getting a new generation involved

Local galleries are hoping that the new, younger generation of tech executives follow in the footsteps of Gates and Ellison and turn their attention toward the fine arts. 

recent Wealth-X report showed that California has more ultra high net worth individuals — defined as people who have more than $30 million in assets — than any other state in the country. 5,460 of those people live in the San Francisco city limits.

Jessica Silverman first opened her own gallery in San Francisco in 2007. In 2013, she moved the gallery to a 3,000-square-foot space in the Tenderloin, near tech companies like Twitter, Zendesk, and One Kings Lane. 

"We didn’t necessarily choose the Tenderloin for its proximity to companies like that, but both technology and art are extremely entrepreneurial. Both are looking for competitive real estate," Silverman told Business Insider. "San Francisco is filled with venture capitalists who are known for having both personal and company collections." 

Ppening nights at Silverman's gallery have drawn big tech figures like Instagram cofounder Mike Krieger and Jawbone creator Yves Behar. She hopes people start looking at art collecting as a form of philanthropy instead of as a status symbol.

"We’re going to see people who are not only buying art because they have bigger houses to fill, but because they're thinking ahead to having a collection to donate," Silverman said. "They’re really intelligent people, outside-of-the-box thinkers."

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Zlot Buell + Associates is an art advisory firm that has worked with a number of high-powered executives in the Bay Area, including those who work in tech. Part of the firm's job is to research the art market and keep clients informed on the artists they should be adding to their collection. It also helps clients buy pieces that aren't available on the primary art markets or in gallery shows. 

Sabrina Buell, an advisor at the firm who is also married to Jawbone's Behar, says she encourages clients to expose themselves to a wide variety of artists, ranging from those whose careers are just emerging to those who have been popular for decades. 

"So much of contemporary art is about engaging with ideas at a given moment," Buell said. "Tech is expressing what is contemporary. There’s real resonance in the business world."

Art's high-tech backers

Some tech execs have already caught on to the trend. Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer, Path founder Dave Morin, and VC Jim Breyer all sit on the board at the San Francisco Museum of Modern Art, currently closed for renovations until 2016. 

In the meantime, a group of organizers have put on the FOG Design + Art Fair, a weekend of exhibits and workshops to benefit the SFMOMA. 

According to Allison Speer, a member of the festival's steering committee, one of the event's explicit goals was to get people in tech acquainted with art. Airbnb CEO Brian Chesky, Zynga founder Mark Pincus, One Kings Lane CEO Ali Pincus, Jawbone CEO Hosain Rahman, and Yelp CEO Jeremy Stoppelman are among those who have served on FOG's committee.

This year, the committee will be honoring Instagram cofounders Kevin Systrom and Mike Krieger during a special innovators' luncheon. 

"The idea was to engage the new tech community, to draw in their demographic and get them involved," Speer said. "There are people who are very interested in art, but they're doing it quietly."  

Even some of the youngest tech moguls are beginning to see the value in collecting art. Snapchat CEO Evan Spiegel recently hired high school friend and artist Wyatt Mills to paint a mural outside the company's new headquarters in Venice, California. 

"I took a tour of Snapchat and I noticed they had a lot of empty walls. Evan told me to pick one," Mills told Business Insider. "Snapchat is an app that captures a moment in time. This mural also captures a moment abstractly."

snapchat muralSpiegel ended up buying some of Mills' pieces for himself, including an abstract painting of a lion and another of a woman applying lipstick.

"I usually do shows, but I do commissions for people every once in awhile," Mills said. "Evan refers a lot of people to me."

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Snapchat also hired Los Angeles-based street artist ThankYouX to do 13 pieces for the company's headquarters. Each of the bright blue, red, and yellow paintings shows a public figure through a cellphone screen, as if they were taking a selfie. He's also done a graffiti-style portrait of Steve Jobs as a gift for Spiegel.

ThankYouX, whose given name is Ryan Wilson, met Spiegel through Paramount's Amy Powell. 

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"Evan gave me a tour of the place and we just hung out for about an hour talking about art, tech, music, etc.," Wilson said. "A few months later they moved to bigger offices and Evan asked if I would want to do art for the offices. From there they started growing more and getting more offices."

"It's insane to see how much this company has grown, and I'm honored to be a small piece of the story."

For some artists who work closely with startups, there's a lot of money to be made.

Wilson declined to say how Snapchat compensated him for his work, but it's possible he received stock options. If he did, those early Snapchat options would likely be worth millions today. 

Facebook famously compensated graffiti artist David Choe with about 3.77 million shares after he painted a set of murals at the company's first offices in Palo Alto. He made about $200 million when Facebook went public in 2012.

Picassos, Ferraris or both?

Despite the efforts of gallery owners like Silverman and festivals like FOG, some are skeptical that newly-minted tech billionaires will choose art collecting over a vacation home or a sports car.

Former Apple exec Jeff Dauber is known for his extensive art collection. Several times a year, he invites groups of people over to his San Francisco home, which has become a sort of art museum in itself. 

"I consider it a success if I convert one person to art collecting a year," Dauber said to Business Insider. "The tech boom has brought a lot of money in, but if you didn’t grow up seeing art, spending $10,000 to half a million dollars on one piece can be really intimidating."

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Part of the problem is that the San Francisco gallery scene has been forced to stay relatively small, due in park to skyrocketing real estate costs. 

"Many local galleries have had to close their doors due to the higher rents directly associated with the tech boom," Micah Lebrun, curator at 111 Minna Gallery, said to Business Insider. "And many tech companies are literally the new occupants to the galleries being pushed out."

Dauber added, "You're less likely to stumble in and discover art here."

An even bigger problem, though, may be the way the arts are taught in school. Most engineering students never have to take a single art class growing up. 

"People who know great design don't necessarily collect art. I know more people who have Ferraris than collect art — what they do to award themselves is buy a sports car," Dauber said. "Art is beautiful, but it has no use. Many people in tech are more interested in the functionality of things." 

For some wealthy tech executives, there's no choice to make. Apple's senior vice president Eddy Cue sits on the board of Ferrari.

And for people like Spiegel, there's room for both art and a Ferrari at his pad.

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A former Vanderbilt mansion on the Upper East Side being sold as an 'empty white box' just got its price cut by $17 million


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A former Vanderbilt mansion in Manhattan's Upper East Side neighborhood has just had its price chopped to $42 million from $59 million, according to Curbed.

The white edifice once belonged to the Vanderbilt family — and subsequently to heiress Gloria Vanderbilt

Built as a one-family, five-story mansion way back in 1881, the building was later subdivided into five separate rental units.

The property was purchased last year for $19 million by a pair of developers. It's been turned back into a single-family mansion – and given a few additional floors, for a total of seven.

It now sits as an "empty white box," waiting for a buyer to "create a custom masterpiece, selecting all appliances and finishes to perfectly suit their taste, to be installed at cost," according to the listing, as noted by Curbed.

Gloria Vanderbilt, however, likely hasn't lived in the home since she was a child. Many of the home's original touches from its Gilded Age construction have been covered up or removed, but the Vanderbilt influence is still visible in the gigantic "V" carved into the stone of the main parlor's fireplace.

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9 foods to eat to give your brain a boost


pouring wine tasting A man tests red wine in the Tenuta dell'Ornellaia estate in Castagneto Carducci, in Tuscany

We all have a general idea of what to eat to stay lean and healthy, but certain foods can help give your brain and body a boost by helping to narrow focus, improve memory, relieve stress, and reduce fatigue.

Broccoli and other greens contain a healthy dose of choline, for example, which studies suggest may help combat memory loss. And a recent study found a link between eating more blueberries and strawberries and a reduced rate of cognitive decline.

To help you start eating smarter, we compiled a list of nutrient-dense foods from Psychology Today, WebMD, and other sources.

Look out for these 10 ingredients on your next grocery run:

1. Salmon

Salmon is packed with omega-3 fatty acids, which are crucial for brain performance. Research finds that omega-3 deficiency can lead to fatigue, poor memory, and mood swings. Because your body can't make these essential fatty acids, it's important to get them from food.

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The experts recommend wild salmon over farmed salmon, as it has much higher levels of omega-3s. If salmon isn't an option, try tuna or halibut, which will also provide a healthy dose of omega-3s.

2. Avocado

Avocados offer a lot more than creamy, delicious flavor. They may also provide your brain with a boost: Research shows, for example, that their high levels of monounsaturated fatty acids may help keep nerve cells in the brain healthy. Each serving of avocado also has 20 different vitamins, including potassium — which studies suggest may help control blood pressure — and lutein, which may help protect your eyes.


A little bit of avocado can go a long way. Because avocados are high in calories, you need to add only a quarter or a half of one avocado to one daily meal.

3. Nuts

Nuts are bursting with vitamin E, which research suggests may help protect against some aspects of age-related cognitive decline. Many nuts are also rich in the essential omega-3 fatty acids mentioned above.

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While all nuts are great for general health, walnuts in particular may help boost your productivity; in addition to being packed with vitamin E and omega-3s, they also contain vitamin B6, which helps make serotonin and norepinephrine, the chemicals that transmit signals in the brain.

4. Spinach, broccoli, and other leafy greens

Dark-hued leafy greens are nutritional powerhouses. Several studies suggest that spinach and broccoli may help protect against age-related problems and cognitive deficits. Also, both greens are rich in iron, an essential mineral that helps transport oxygen throughout the body.

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Without iron, your body can't make enough oxygen-carrying red blood cells, and you may experience low energy and fatigue if you haven't had enough.

5. Berries

A study published in 2012 found that greater intakes of blueberries and strawberries were associated with slower rates of cognitive decline in older adults. The research team suspects this is because berries have a high concentration of flavonoids, an antioxidant that may have antihistamine-, antimicrobial-, memory-, and mood-enhancing properties.


Additionally, blueberries have more antioxidants — which help protect cells from damage caused by free radicals — than any other fruit and are relatively low in calories (there are fewer than 100 calories in one cup).

6. Red wine

Next time you're out to eat, opt for a dish you can pair with red wine. In addition to being heart-healthy, red wine contains a key component — resveratrol — that may be linked to increased longevity. Most of the studies conducted on resveratrol have been done on animals, however, and more research is needed before determining its exact benefits.


Be sure to drink in moderation, as alcohol slows down the brain's ability to function properly by altering levels of neurotransmitters, the messengers sending signals throughout your body that control thought processes.

7. Beans

Beans are often overlooked, but they're a great economical ingredient to add to your grocery list. They contain an ideal blend of complex carbohydrates and protein; this allows them to be digested slowly, which ultimately helps stabilize glucose levels and curb fatigue.


The experts recommend half a cup of lentils or black beans a day.

8. Dark chocolate

Harvard researchers recently conducted a small study that suggests a link between dark chocolate and brain function. The research team studied the effects of cocoa — specifically flavanol, a natural compound in cocoa beans — in 60 people between 67 and 77 years old by having them drink hot cocoa twice a day for a month. Study author and assistant professor of neurology at Harvard Medical School Farzaneh Sorond told ABC News that the chocolate appeared to boost the brain's blood supply, providing it with more fuel for the work that it does.

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Don't overdo it, though, because this food needs to be consumed in moderation to work its wonders. WebMD suggests eating a small, 1.6-ounce piece of dark chocolate a day (an ounce is about the size of a book of matches).

9. Cayenne pepper

Hot peppers are rich in capsaicin, a natural pain reliever and fat fighter that research suggests may help you cut back on calories and assist in the body's breakdown of fat. So the next time you're preparing a meal, rather than reaching for the salt or black pepper, the smarter choice may be a pinch of cayenne.

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This enormous, $8 fried chicken sandwich could launch a major fast-food brand


Korean-American chef David Chang, of Momofuku fame, is taking one small step into the world of fast food. The restaurant is called Fuku and the hero is this enormous fried chicken sandwich. 



The sandwich that will have hipsters lined up around the block sounds like a riff on Chick-fil-A. Sustainably sourced chicken thighs are marinated in habañero purée, dipped in buttermilk, coated in spices, deep-fried, and tucked into a potato roll with pickles and butter. 

The rolls are steamed (like the Taiwanese bao buns), and the butter is flavored with fermented chickpeas, New York magazine's Grub Street reports. Chang says the chicken recipe yields an intensely juicy, crispy piece of meat. 

Located in a tiny, standing-room space in New York's East Village — the original location of Chang's first restaurant, Noodle Bar — Fuku will start serving to the public on Wednesday. The menu will also include thick-cut french fries and a seasonal salad, as well as beer and spirits.


Since opening Noodle Bar in 2004, the 37-year-old chef has amassed a stable of 11 restaurant concepts in New York, Toronto, and Sydney.

In 2011, Chang launched a magazine, Lucky Peach, and just this spring he introduced New Yorkers to Maple, his food-delivery service backed by $22 million in funding.

When he first talked about Fuku at this year's SXSW, he mentioned its correlation to fast-food giants like Chick-fil-A and In-N-Out. So, ostensibly, Chang has plans to take Fuku far beyond Manhattan. We'll just have to wait and see. 

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If you're going to do the colorful watch-strap thing this summer, this is the way to rock it



Over the past few years, the whole cheerful summertime watch-strap thing has taken off. A style move that was formerly confined to old-school prepsters has expanded to the wider world.

Timex can be credited with the tipping point. The watchmaker's Weekender model is the modern classic: simple face, lots of different, colorful straps to choose from and mix into a rotation.

Also, it's $36 (from Timex.com), for the 38mm version. That's a great deal for a stylish timepiece.

Timex Weekender

But for my money, this isn't the best way to rock the look. It's fine if you like the idea of the fun weekend summer watch. There is, however, a better way.

Out Lifestyle Reporter, Dennis Green, has nailed it. Dennis picked up a Seiko 5, a high-quality entry level automatic watch, for about $60 (the Weekender is quartz,meaning that it's powered by a battery rather a mechanically wound spring). 

Then he added an aftermarket "Nato" strap for around $12. 

As you can see, the overall presentation is a lot more impressive than Weekender.

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Sometimes, it's worth it to take a little extra time and spend a bit more money to create a personalized version of a popular style trend. To top it all off, the Seiko 5 is a very well-respected gateway to mechanical watches.

If you decide to go with the Weekender, you'll be perfectly happy. But if you follow Dennis' lead, you'll probably rock long after the summer of 2015 is over.

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40 mouthwatering pictures of street foods from around the world


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Forget fine dining.

Across the globe, some of the best, most authentic local dishes are cooked right on the street.

From fries smothered in gravy and cheese curds in Canada to fruits covered in a sweet candy shell in China, here are 40 street foods you won't regret sinking your teeth into. 

Dürüm, in Istanbul, is a wrap made from flatbread stuffed with spiced meat like lamb, chicken, or a beef-veal combination. Then, it is topped off with fresh onions, cucumbers, lettuce, tomato, an herb-yogurt sauce, and hot sauce to pack a punch.

Tang hu lu is a sweet skewered snack made from various fruits like strawberry, kiwi, oranges, bananas, and grapes coated in hard sugar. You’ll see peddlers in Shanghai, China, offering them throughout the day.

In Jamaica, jerk chicken is cooked over charcoal and seasoned with spices to produce a smoky flavor all wrapped up in a crispy layer of the chicken's skin.



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7 grooming products every guy needs after a sweaty morning at the gym


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The best thing a man can do for his morning routine is hit the gym. The benefits of working up a sweat before your daily grind are well-documented.

The challenge is to transform from your sweaty gym self back into something more appropriate for your office. That's where these products come in.

We asked the team at Birchbox Man to help us compile a list of the very best products to carry with you to the gym that will keep you fresh all day at the office.

1. BODY WASH/SHAMPOO: English Laundry 3-in-1 Shampoo, Conditioner and Body Wash, $20

This 3-in-1 time-saving product keeps both skin and hair hydrated with a creamy lather. The scent is also fantastic — a combination of bergamot, tarragon, and jasmine for a woodsy aroma.

2. HAIR PRODUCT: Hanz de Fuko Claymation, $18.50

Towel dry your hair and keep it in place with this cross between a wax and a soft clay. It holds well through both wind and rain, but doesn’t make hair feel greasy or stiff to the touch.

3. FACE WIPES: Ursa Major’s Face Wipes, $24

These one-time wipes exfoliate, cleanse, tone, and hydrate. Just unfold and swipe across your face and neck to get rid of any oil, grime, or sweat that may still be lingering after your shower.

4. DEODORANT: Jack Black’s Pit Boss Antiperspirant and Deodorant, $17

This invisible solid stick is gentle on skin and has a clean, citrusy scent that controls odors without being overbearing. Even if you’re out running all day and miss a shower, this stuff will still keep you smelling good.

5. ODOR PREVENTION: Bálla for Men Powder, $17

For the ultimate odor and sweat prevention, sprinkle some Bálla for Men Powder under your arms after applying your everyday deodorant. It contains talcum powder, zinc oxide, and zinc stearate to absorb moisture and stop odor and wetness, before or after your workout.

6. SORE MUSCLE SOOTHER: Lucky Tiger Head To Tail Rub, $12

If you went harder than usual at the gym, this soothing salve will help ease your overworked muscles and joints. The scent is a combination of eucalyptus, wintergreen, methanol, and peppermint that won’t overwhelm you, but will still help relieve soreness.

7. LOTION: Recipe for Men Super Smooth Body Cream, $24

After sweating and taking a hot shower, put more moisture back into your skin. This body cream has aloe and Shea butter to soften up any rough patches, while also fighting pore-clogging bacteria and preventing irritation.

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Psychologists say you need these 3 compatibilities to have a successful marriage


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Although fewer young people are getting married today than ever before, research suggests that getting and staying married is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

As The New York Times recently concluded, "being married makes people happier and more satisfied with their lives than those who remain single — particularly during the most stressful periods, like midlife crises."

But how do you know if you should get hitched in the first place? 

We asked Peter Pearson, couples therapist and cofounder of the Couples Institute of Menlo Park, California. 

Chemistry was his first answer. 

"Chemistry is not everything," he said, "but if the chemistry is not there, that's a tough thing to overcome. If the chemistry is more there for one person than the other, that's tough to overcome. It's hard to build passion if it's low at the beginning. If I could find a way to build passion where passion was low, I'd be richer than Bill Gates."

But it's not just sexual chemistry, Pearson said. What you might call social chemistry plays a crucial role — the way you feel when you're with the other person. In his experience, when people have affairs, it's more than simple lust — it's also about the way they feel when they're around the other person. 

That sense of "how I feel" can be investigated further by looking at the work of Canadian psychologist Eric Berne. Back in the 1950s and '60s, Berne developed "transactional analysis," a model that tried to provide an account of how two people in a relationship interact, or transact.

His popular books about the model became bestsellers, namely "The Games People Play." Drawing somewhat on Sigmund Freud, his theory argued that every person has three "ego states":

• The parent: What you've been taught

• The child: What you have felt

• The adult: What you have learned

When two people are really compatible, they connect along each tier. Pearson gave us a few questions for figuring out compatibility at each level: 

• The parent: Do you have similar values and beliefs about the world? 

• The child: Do you have fun together? Can you be spontaneous? Do you think your partner's hot? Do you like to travel together? 

• The adult: Does each person think the other is bright? Are you good at solving problems together? 

While having symmetry across all three is ideal, Pearson said that people often "get together to balance each other." One person might identify as fun-loving and adventurous, while the other takes on the role of nurturing and responsible. 

While that divvying up of roles makes for good odd-couple romantic comedies, it's not ultimately sustainable.

"That works until someone gets tired," Pearson said — until one partner is shouting, "I'm tired of being the responsible person here!"

When that happens (or ideally, before that happens), a couple has to go through the "differentiation" process.  

In another interview, Pearson's wife and Couples Institute cofounder Ellyn Bader described how the high-tension phase of differentiation works: 

People have to come to terms with the reality that "we really are different people. You are different from who I thought you were or wanted you to be. We have different ideas, different feelings, different interests."

Differentiation has two components. There is self-differentiation: "This is who I am and what I want." This refers to the development of an independent sense of self: to know what I want, think, feel, desire...

The second involves differentiation from the other. When this is successful, the members of the couple have the capacity to be separate from each other and involved at the same time.

For couples to survive that differentiation process and maintain their compatibility, the real secret sauce is effort. 

But despite all these theoretical models, Pearson said the clues about what predicts true compatibility are much more of a felt sense than something you reason out. 

He provided a litmus test. "If you're living together and your partner is away for a couple days and you see a favorite scarf, a pair of shoes, or another article of clothing that's important to them, how do you feel?" Pearson asked. "Do you feel annoyed that you have to pick up the clutter, or does it bring up happy memories?" 

The answer can tell you a lot about how your parent, child, and adult are getting along with theirs. 

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34 awesome photos that show how college-dorm life has changed over 110 years


dorm rooms university madison wisconsinMoving into your freshman dorm room can be totally nerve-wracking. But campus living is nothing new. Harvard's oldest dorm is nearly 300 years old.

College dorms have modernized over time. Today, students have access to wireless Internet, air conditioning, and cheerful study rooms. But some things haven't changed much. A century ago, students still slept in single beds, hung family photos on their walls, and chilled with friends in their dorm rooms.

The University of Wisconsin-Madison's archives department put together a fantastic collection of photos showing how student housing has changed over the past 110 years. They kindly shared their collection with us.

This woman's dorm room from 1898 isn't much different from modern day dorms: pennants, books, and a chair for studying.

Photographs and mementos kept things homey in this room, pictured in 1899.

Male students raise their glasses in a boarding house or fraternity in this 1909 photo.

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Here's how to get your tie to look exactly like James Bond's


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Many men attempt to emulate the cool, effortless style of James Bond, 007.

But many of them miss the small details.

Sure, his suit looks sharp as hell. But there are reasons why, beyond extraordinarily tailoring. Such as his choice of shirt collar.

Notice how tight the tie and collar is in the photo to the right? The easiest way to achieve that look is by wearing a tab collar.

For this look, an extra strip of fabric (a tab) is fastened (usually by a button) between the collars and behind the tie, bringing them together and sending the tie protruding slightly outward. This creates an elegant arch, framing the tie nicely and creating some "drama" where there normally wouldn't be any.

Let's take a closer look: 

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The signature of the tab collar is roll of the collar, which perfectly frames the protruding tie. With the tabs, the tie is kept tightly in place — no matter whether you're saving the world or just slogging through your morning meetings.

This look isn't for everyone and is certainly not trendy anymore. It's a choice, and not a very commonly seen one these days. That's because there are a few significant drawbacks: You can't wear a tab-collar shirt without a tie; your collar must fit rather tightly around your neck; and your tie knot must be on the smaller side. As GQ says, tab collars are sporty and not recommended for formal occasions.

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According to GQ UK, this look first gained prominence in the 1920s and was a favorite look of the Duke of Windsor. It enjoyed a revival in the '60s, which is exactly when the first Bond movie appeared (1962).

The 2012 movie "Skyfall" was the first time Bond sported this tight look, according to GQ UK, and seems as if it was Tom Ford's homage to the early Bond days (According to Vogue UK, Ford was approached by the costume team from "Skyfall" to dress Bond head to toe for the film, and this tab-collar affectation was his doing.)

Daniel Craig himself seemed to be a fan of the tab collar, and he even wore it in a few variations to the world premieres of the film.

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Unfortunately, Tom Ford no longer sells the tab-collar shirt, so if you're looking for the exact model, you're out of luck. Cheaper models do exist, including this Paul Fredrick shirt with a similar collar silhouette. 

It seems not even the likes of the legendary Tom Ford could bring the tab collar into the 21st century. We'll see what Bond wears in the next film, "Spectre," due out this fall.

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Staying in shape is becoming a luxury that only the richest people can afford


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Fitness classes are becoming a luxury product.

The fashion website Racked recently chronicled several women who were willing to fork over lots of dollars to work out at boutique fitness centers.

"It prompted me to reassess my financial situation," one woman, Sarah (whose name was changed) told the website.

She said she had cut down going to boutique fitness classes to once a week and had signed up for Equinox — which costs $225 a month and is a fancier alternative to a no-frills gym.

One woman told Racked she spent about $850 a month on fitness, or a startling $10,200 a year.

AKT founder Anna Kaiser told Racked why she thought people spent this much money on fitness. "You could lease a car or go really deep into a transformation program and change your life [...] I'll see clients that pay $450 for a T-shirt, but have an issue with $37 for an intimate experience with another human being. It always shocks me when someone shows me a $3,500 dress and then tries to bargain out of a class. Most of these people wouldn't think twice about a $40 blowout."

In an interview with Racked from earlier this year, Soul Cycle founder Elizabeth Cutler said the price tag could enhance the experience. "There is a luxury component to it," she said. "When people pay for something, there's a certain commitment and a certain energy that they bring to it, and that elevates the whole [concept]. That's where you start to feel the commitment."

Soul Cycle is known for its cult following. Women who visit the cycling studio regularly pay $34 for a single class in New York City. A 30-class pack is $850. Soul Cycle's competitor, Flywheel, is also $34 a ride, with prices that decrease when you buy them in packs, but not by much.

But because it is healthy, Racked notes, women argue it is worth it.

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32 apps that will change the way you travel



Apps can help solve every travel-related concern you've ever had — even those you didn't realize you may stumble upon.

We've put together the definitive list of the best travel-related mobile apps.

Whether it's helping you save money, find a restroom or WiFi, or identify the best glacier hike, these 32 apps will make you a better traveler.


Packing for your destination can be tough if you don't know what to expect for weather during your trip. AccuWeather solves that problem by providing weather forecasts down to the minute. And it's really accurate too.

Available on: Android and iOS.

Cost: Free


The Airbnb app has some 600,000 listings in more than 34,000 cities, making it easy for travelers to find the perfect accommodation, whether it's a treehouse or a penthouse or something in between.

Travelers can message different hosts, explore destinations, and add areas to a Wish List. Hosts can also use the app to post and manage listings.  

Cost: Free

Available on: iOS, Android, Windows Phone


Citymaps is an interactive map that lets you see the best-rated places in the area, get a newsfeed from friends to see what they recommend, create your own collection of places and see a short review from each.

You can share your favorites by printing or sending your collections through PDFs, and you can import Foursquare lists through the new version of the app.

Available on: iOS,Android

Cost: Free

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Rich techies at Burning Man are spending thousands to stay in air-conditioned storage units


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Burning Man — the annual weeklong festival that draws wealthy techies and artists alike to a stretch of desert 120 miles north of Reno, Nevada — is coming up in August, which means attendees are starting to think about how to build their elaborate camps.

The idea behind Burning Man is for tens of thousands of campers to come to the dessert and build a new arts-focused, DIY metropolis that functions without the use of money. They'll erect tents, temporary buildings, stands, and outposts to live in and create their own creative, artistic, and out-there community.

These so-called burners spends months leading up to Burning Man getting their costumes, decorations, and living areas prepped — but some are opting to get ready-made storage container camps from a company called Quick Space instead of constructing their own from scratch.

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Gene Temen, president of Quick Space, has been supplying the Burning Man event with office trailers for the event’s hospital and administrative buildings for seven years.

Three years ago, the team at Quick Space realized they could repurpose the trailers as living quarters. The units come with insulation, air conditioning, lights, and flooring, Travis Lekas, the operations manager for Quick Space, told Business Insider. This makes them perfect for campers who would rather not deal with the realities of living in the desert for seven days.

They call them “Burner Bungalows.”

Burners can paint and add onto the trailers however they wish, for an additional fee of $300 for the exterior and $200 for the interior. So instead of building a camp ground from scratch, they can either use the trailer as a shelter or build around it and use the trailer for storage. 

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“You can paint it if you want to paint the inside or the outside — whatever you want to do,” Lekas told Business Insider. “It also comes with three five-gallon bottles of water, a first aid kit, a fire extinguisher, and a garbage can along with additional garbage bags.”

This might not sound like the whimsical and artistic camps that Burning Man is known for, but the idea is to give campers the base on which to build their dream camp, Lekas explained.

And although they don't look like the typical Burning Man structure, which can range from a yurt to a tent to an RV, the trailers are practical. The ready-made storage units come with necessities like water, insulation, and air-conditioning, and can be used for storage both during and after the event.

The company will also come and remove the trailer after the week is over, fitting with Burning Man’s “leave no trace” policy after the seven day event is over, which is included in the price. You can store your Burning Man gear in the trailer until the next year and not worry about shipping it or needing to fly back with all of your stuff for $750 per year of storage.

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“My camp is seriously looking at getting a shipping container that would be delivered before the burn opens and picked up after close,” one Reddit user said about the bungalows. “We'd use it to store gear year-round that otherwise would waste fuel going back to random points around the country to sit for a year.”

The cost for the trailers is about $3,745 plus a $1,000 security deposit — more if you want to decorate the interior and exterior and store the unit all year. Generators also bear an additional cost of $250.

The trailers might also be a good compromise for burners who were previously planning to rely on the fully-furnished luxurious camping options, or “turnkey camps,” that have been recently banned from the playa.

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That means no more built-in personal chefs, sherpas, or other luxurious features associated with concierge camping. But with the trailers, tech millionaires can still have air-conditioning in a pinch and protect their belongings from the sand and dust.

Lekas told us that the company currently has 50 orders for units this year, and if the rise in interest over the past few years is any indication, they could double their orders by 2016.

“Our first year we started off, we just built a camp,” Lekas said. “The next year and the second year, we started off with five bungalows, and then our next one went to 40 bungalows. We’re hoping next year to supply 100 bungalows.”

You can find out more information on Burner Bungalows here.

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Men are furious about Lululemon's new underwear


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Lululemon's new boxer shorts are a flop with customers. 

The "no boxer boxer" has a two out of five stars rating on the athletic-apparel-retailer's website, with dozens of men complaining about the poor quality.

Many customers said the underwear, which was supposed to be a replacement for the "game on" boxer and cost $24 per pair, didn't measure up to their standards. Some complained the fabric ripped easily. 

"Loved the 'game on' boxer brief, loved it so much told all of my friends about it and converted many buddies into Lululemon shoppers," one reviewer wrote. "After buying two pairs of this new version (because the old one is discontinued) I am extremely disappointed." 

He said he would just wear his old boxers until they fell apart. 

Another reviewer who said he used to "rave about" Lululemon's underwear said he is disappointed by the new purchase.

"I just bought a new pair today (not knowing they had replaced their previous underwear) and it is horrible!" he writes. "They feel cheap and the new 'pouch' is very uncomfortable."

Customer-service representatives from Lululemon encouraged men who weren't satisfied with the quality to contact the company for a refund. 

Lululemon's men's business is booming, with sales up 19% in the most recent quarter. 

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High sales numbers are driven by the ABC pants, or "anti-ball-crushing" pants, which boast a four-star rating and are supposed to allow "breathing room" for men.

Lululemon has been plagued by quality issues in the past. 

The retailer had to recall its yoga pants in 2013 for being too sheer. The company eventually blamed the problem on an outside supplier. 

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Here's the real reason why your subway train is always running late


You've been standing on the subway platform for 15 minutes now and the train has yet to arrive. There are at least 40 others huffing and puffing, looking down the track for an inkling of light to indicate a train is approaching.

So what the heck is happening?

A new video produced by New York City's Metropolitan Transportation Authority (MTA) tries to explain the math behind train delays. And, to make it even more fun, it does so using some fun 8-bit animations.

Here's the quick rundown:

Subway lines are programmed so that every train is spaced evenly from station to station. This, in a perfect world, means that each station's wait time is generally the same.

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But if an event happens that causes one train to remain at the station — even if it's just for a few seconds — an uneven gap between trains occurs.

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This gap only gets bigger as the trains that aren't stopped at the front continue running on schedule and those behind the stopped train remain delayed.

This causes the stations in the middle to experience a prolonged wait time. 

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The MTA attempts to fix this by holding back one of the non-delayed trains. This creates two smaller service gaps instead of one huge one.

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But even with these measures to mitigate delay time, just a few seconds can cause a huge chain reaction, leaving passengers tapping their toes and waiting for the next train.

This may not seem like rocket science, but seeing train flow from this perspective helps explain why delays occur so often.

And, it's even cooler and more engaging to see it through fun 8-bit animation.

You can watch the entire video below.

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I just spent 10 days road-tripping from Los Angeles to New Orleans and I never expected what I saw



For my summer vacation this year, I wanted to do what one good friend of mine called the "most American thing possible": a road trip. 

My friend Jack had a writer's residency in Los Angeles, and we had been talking about checking out New Orleans for a while, so we decided to bridge the two cities by way of interstate.

Along the way, we'd check out parts of America I'd never visited: the open Southwest of Arizona, New Mexico, and Texas. 

I didn't expect to find sea lions, stalactites, and a guitar-playing horse along the way — but they turned out to be key characters in our adventure.

On my first full day, I woke up to a book and a view of Los Angeles's famous Venice Beach. It's the sort of thing a guy could get used to.

I knew I was in Los Angeles by two sure signs: psychics and traffic...

...and malls...

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33 breathtaking photos from the most beautiful place in Canada


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Alberta, Canada, may not be the first idea that comes to mind when you think of booking your next vacation.

But here's a reason to consider it: The western province is full of amazing scenery that travel photographers — both professional and amateur — take advantage of every day.

We took a look at #explorealberta on Instagram and scoured Instagrammers' accounts to find the pictures that come closest to doing the area justice.

From waterfalls to mountains to wildlife, here's Alberta in all its spectacular glory.

Located in western Canada between British Columbia and Saskatchewan, the province of Alberta is home to breathtaking scenery that serves as inspiration for both professional and amateur photographers.

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Alberta offers a variety of landscapes as it's surrounded by the Canadian Rocky Mountains to the west and prairies to the east. This is the Icefields Parkway — a highway that runs through Alberta — as captured by travel Instagrammer and adventurist Jordan Herschel (@jordanherschel).

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Here's another one of Herschel's stunning photographs of the area.

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