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A psychologist says more people in relationships are 'micro-cheating' — here's how to know if it's happening to you

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  • "Micro-cheating" involves seemingly trivial behaviors that suggest a person is emotionally or physically involved with someone outside the relationship, an Australian psychologist told the Daily Mail.
  • The top signs are secrecy and deception, such as if your partner hides their online chats with someone.
  • Ultimately, every couple has to set their boundaries for the relationship.


The Daily Mail on Thursday published an article on "micro-cheating." And depending on your perspective, it could help validate the fears you've been having about your relationship — or create new insecurities.

Melanie Schilling, an Australian psychologist, told the Daily Mail that micro-cheating involves seemingly trivial behaviors that suggest a person is emotionally or physically involved with someone outside the relationship — think listing a "friend" under a code name in your phone.

Micro-cheating, according to Schilling, is fundamentally about secrecy and deception. If your partner is hiding any aspect of their relationship with someone else — say, if they close Gmail the minute you walk into the room — that could be a sign that something's amiss.

Schilling isn't the first to comment on so-called micro-cheating. Urban Dictionary's entry for "micro-cheating" — "when someone cheats on a partner, but just a little bit" — dates back to 2008.

A 2016 Thought Catalog list titled "33 Ways Your Boyfriend is Micro-cheating (and Totally Getting Away With It)" included an example of a boyfriend "gifting his girlfriend with a bottle of the perfume his crush wears so she'll smell like his latest fantasy chick."

It's important for couples to set boundaries for their relationship

The term micro-cheating recalls the similarly salacious and hard-to-define "emotional affair."

As Kristin Salaky at INSIDER reported, emotional affairs are increasingly common. That may be at least partly because of the rise of digital technology and social media, which allows people to keep in touch with exes or have late-night conversations that cross the line without ever getting physical.

If you feel as if micro-cheating — or any kind of cheating — is happening in your relationship, it's important to specify which behaviors are bothering you, Schilling told the Daily Mail. She gave an example: "When you add all the heart emojis in her/his post comments it makes me feel like she/he is your partner, rather than me. Next time, it would be great if you could reserve the online love for me."

A commenter on the subreddit Ask Women, writing in response to the Thought Catalog list, put it nicely:

"I don't understand the concept of 'micro-cheating'. What I do understand is the concept of relationship boundaries. Every relationship partner should have their boundaries and if their partner goes outside of the agreed upon boundaries, then I think that is a betrayal by their partner. Whether or not they want to call that cheating, 'micro-cheating', or whatever doesn't matter to me."

SEE ALSO: The most insidious type of cheating isn't physical — here are 8 signs it could be happening to you

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19 Netflix original shows that both critics and audiences agree are amazing

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TV viewers and TV critics aren't often on the same page. But where the interests of the two overlap, you're sure to find some quality shows.

Netflix's latest original series, "The End of the F***ing World," is one such program.

Acclaimed by both critics and fans, the British dark comedy recently won an enthusiastic endorsement from Netflix CEO Reed Hastings, who called it the "most engaging addictive original" in a long time. 

To figure out which other Netflix original series were beloved by both groups, we turned to the reviews aggregator Rotten Tomatoes to see which Netflix original shows scored at least an 85% "Fresh" rating with critics and audiences. 

Excluding docu-series, talk shows, and kids shows, we ranked these series by averaging their critic and audience scores on the site, and we used critic scores to break any ties.

Here are 19 Netflix original shows that both critics and audiences love:

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19. "Castlevania" — 87%

Critic score: 85%

Audience score: 89%

Average score: 87%

Netflix description: "A vampire hunter fights to save a besieged city from an army of otherworldly beasts controlled by Dracula himself. Inspired by the classic video games."



18. "W/ Bob and David" — 87%

Critic score: 88%

Audience score: 86%

Average score: 87%

Netflix description: "After being dishonorably discharged from the Navy Seals, 'Bob and David' are back serving our country the way they do best -- making sketch comedy."



17. "Anne with an E" — 88%

Critic score: 87%

Audience score: 89%

Average score: 88%

Netflix description: "A plucky orphan whose passions run deep finds an unlikely home with a spinster and her soft-spoken bachelor brother. Based on 'Anne of Green Gables.'"



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A look at the mysterious life of Steve Jobs' formerly estranged daughter, Lisa, who inherited a fortune

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• Lisa Brennan-Jobs was born just before Steve Jobs and Apple began to take off, but the tech mogul didn't acknowledge her as his daughter for years.

• Brennan-Jobs went on to become a journalist and leads a very private life.

• She helped screenwriter Aaron Sorkin with his portrayal of her father in the 2015 movie "Steve Jobs."



Seven years after his death, Steve Jobs remains one of the most talked-about innovators of our time. But his firstborn daughter largely avoids the spotlight.

Lisa Brennan-Jobs stood to inherit millions from the Apple founder, according to Fortune. Yet not much is known about the 39-year-old's current net worth or lifestyle as she leads a very private life. Here's a look at the life of Lisa Brennan-Jobs:

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Brennan-Jobs was born on May 17, 1978, in the All One Farm apple commune. According to the Cult of Mac, the Oregon commune was a hotbed of LSD and Eastern spiritualism, and both of Brennan-Jobs' parents had spent time there in the past.

Source: "Steve Jobs," Oregon Live, Cult of Mac



Brennan-Jobs' parents, Steve Jobs and Chrisann Brennan, had dated on and off since high school, but their relationship became strained during the early days of Apple. According to Brennan, Jobs hadn't taken the news of her pregnancy well and denied he was the father.

Source: "The Bite in the Apple," The Daily Mail



Jobs did visit Brennan and the newborn at the commune, however. Together, the new parents named their baby daughter Lisa. But Jobs refused to acknowledge the fact he was Lisa's father. As Apple began to explode, Brennan had to work as a server and relied on welfare to support her daughter.

Source: Business Insider, The Daily Mail, The New York Post, "The Bite in the Apple"



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How to move to Canada and become a Canadian citizen

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If the American political climate has you stressed, you may find yourself imagining a move to Canada.

It's a land where healthcare is free, people are friendly, and Prime Minister Justin Trudeau explains quantum computing just for laughs.

But actually becoming a citizen is tough: You need to live in Canada for at least six years, stay on your best behavior, and know a thing or two about the country you'll soon call home.

For those who actually want to head up north, here's how you move to Canada.

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Preface: Make sure you're not already a Canadian citizen.

Before you go through the hassle of applying for citizenship, take a short quiz to see if you may already be Canadian.

The government outlines several caveats for being a citizen even if you weren't born there, many of which depend on your parents' citizenship. Maybe you secretly inherited their status at some point along the way.



Be at least 18 years old.

If you're not a legal adult, you've got an uphill climb ahead of you.

Minors need their parent or legal guardian to fill out the application for them, although the parent does not personally need to be a citizen.



Or enter the pool for skilled immigrants.

Canada has a fast-track system for immigration called Express Entry. It's how skilled workers transition into a role in the country.

All applicants into Express Entry are given specific scores based on their specific talents and job prospects and then ranked with other applicants. Those at the top of the rankings are invited to become permanent residents.



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11 restaurants worth trying during Restaurant Week in New York City

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The restaurants participating in this year's NYC Restaurant Week have been announced — and if you know which ones to snag a reservation at, the event can be a great way to try out some of the best food in the city, without the massive price tag.

Prices run at $42 for a three-course prix-fixe dinner menu, or just $29 for lunch.

The "Week," which takes place between January 22nd and February 9th, has a whopping 370 restaurants participating. Here, we've rounded up the top 11 that have the most notable chefs, and highest menu price points.

See below where you can get the best bang for your buck during NYC Restaurant Week.

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Aureole - Liberty Room

A two-course lunch at Aureole's Liberty Room usually runs up to $38 — so now's the time to try chef Marcus Ware's braised veal cheeks, and cavatelli pasta made with squid.  



Riverpark

Riverpark's prix fixe offering for Restaurant Week is almost as vast as their regular menu. Enjoy the whole roasted dorade, which usually costs $37, for a fraction of the price.



Mission Chinese Food

Offering menu favorites such as the beef brisket — which usually costs $22 alone — Mission Chinese Food is giving a delightful sampling of their otherwise pricey menu.



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11 things any functioning adult has in their home

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You know when you walk into someone's home and it just feels like ... an adult lives here? That's the way you should feel when you walk into your home.

It doesn't happen by magic, though. You've got to furnish your space with all the essentials — for cooking, for safety, for everyday storage.

We checked out two Redditthreads on the topic, as well as some other resources, and put together a list of items every adult home must have. The list is by no means exhaustive, but it's a good launching point. Read on to see what you're missing.

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Kitchen knife and cutting board

That's a tip from a Redditor whose name has since been deleted.

As Business Insider reported, celebrity chef Anthony Bourdain says no one needs a knife set— you just need one good chef's knife. "Like a pro, you should use the tip for the small stuff, and the area nearer the heel for the larger," Bourdain writes in his 2000 memoir, "Kitchen Confidential."

Bourdain admits you may also find it useful to own a flexible boning knife for fish and meat, a paring knife for vegetables, and a serrated knife for just about anything.



Basic tool set

Don't call your extra-handy friend when something breaks in your house — be that extra-handy friend.

Hatecopsandcats tells you exactly what you'll need: "Hammer, screwdriver, tape measure, utility knife, adjustable wrench, WD40, duct tape." (A commenter adds that you'll need a drill.)

If you're looking for recommendations, Insider Picks chose the Stanley 65-piece toolkit as the best overall tool kit, though it doesn't come with every single item mentioned above.



Flashlight

"You never know when the power will go out," writes squirrelpanic. Plus, the Red Cross recommends that every household has a flashlight in case of emergency.



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You may soon be able to use the blockchain to formally consent to sex

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  • Dutch blockchain company LegalThings is creating a blockchain-based app that will establish legally binding contracts for sexual consent.
  • The app was created in the wake of the #MeToo movement; the company hopes to establish clear lines of communication around sexual acts. 
  • Critics of the app argue that it oversimplifies sexual consent.


Blockchain technology could soon be used for something a bit sexier than keeping track of bitcoin transactions or the movement of goods within corporate supply chains.

Dutch startup LegalThings announced Wednesday it plans to release an app designed to allow people to more easily give explicit and formal consent to sex. Through an easy-to-use interface, couples or groups will be able to use the app, dubbed LegalFling, to enter into binding contracts that are recorded on a blockchain, the digital ledger technology that's designed to save permanent records of transactions in multiple places.

The app is meant to be a "fun" solution for navigating the often ambiguous nuances of sexual consent, said Arnold Daniels, LegalFling's creator and the co-founder of LegalThings' co-founder in an email to Business Insider. But Daniels acknowledged it may need more work.

"We want to start a dialogue and get input from those with more expertise on this subject," Daniels said in an email to Business Insider. "This is a delicate subject that we'd like to get right."

Unfortunately for Daniels and LegalFling, instead of sparking a dialogue the app is instead drawing sharp criticism, at least from some quarters.

LegalFling represents a "deeply flawed" effort and is a far cry from how sexual consent should actually work, Gizmodo reporter Melanie Ehrenkranz wrote in a piece on her site.

"A blanketed [sic] contract ahead of engaging in sexual contact signals that consent is simply a one-time checklist," Ehrenkranz wrote. "Consent, however, is something that occurs continually throughout a sexual encounter."

Ironically, LegalThings, according to its website, decided to develop LegalFling specifically in response to the #MeToo movement that swept across social media last year, in which women made public their stories of being sexually harassed, abused, and raped. That movement has brought to the forefront questions of consent with regards to sexual behavior. LegalThings was hoping to address such questions with LegalFling, which it plans to release in the next few weeks, by providing a way for users to clearly communicate their intentions.

"Before making it public, we need to get enough input to be confident we're addressing the problem in the right way," Daniels said in his email. 

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But the company has a broader goal in mind for LegalFling. It wants to use the app to showcase its Live Contracts, which are digitized agreements in which both the deals themselves and the various ways they're implemented are recorded in a blockchain. LegalThings wants to use LegalFling to demonstrate the ease of entering into a legally binding Live Contract, Daniels said.

"We want to show that creating an agreement doesn't have to be a ten-document-long legal document," he said. 

Although the contracts are made using an app and recorded in a virtual ledger, there can be real consequences for breaking them, even when it comes to agreements related to sexual conduct, Daniels said.

"For instance, you may have consented to taking nude pictures, [and] the contract clearly states that these must be deleted upon request and may never be shared," he said. If you violate the agreement, you could be slapped with a $50,000 fine, he said.

"If needed, litigating a violated [non-disclosure agreement] is much easier than having to go to law enforcement and take it to criminal court," Daniels said.

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Meghan Markle just proved her dominance over Kate Middleton, to the tune of $677 million

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  • Meghan Markle and Prince Harry are to be married in May.
  • Their wedding is expected to give an estimated $677 million boost to the British economy.
  • Kate Middleton's fashion-icon status contributed an estimated $205 million to the economy in 2015.


We're still four months away from the May 19 wedding of Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, but the "Meghan Effect" is already in full force.

Like Kate Middleton before her, Markle's entrée into the royal family is expected to bring a huge boost to the British economy, this time to the tune of $677 million (£500 million).

That's according to an estimation by Brand Finance, reported by Forbes, which calculated the expected profits from a surge in tourism, travel, restaurants, hotels, parties and celebrations, and the sales of T-shirts, hats, banners, and other commemorative merchandise related to the royal wedding.

Around the time of the last royal wedding, in 2011, the phenomenon was deemed the "Duchess Effect" or the "Kate Effect": Anything worn by Middleton, and now her children, flies off the shelves. Middleton effectively became a trendsetter overnight.

But the royal reverberations continue far beyond the months surrounding the nuptials.

In 2015, the Kate Effect brought more than $205 million (£152 million) to the British economy, while the "Charlotte Effect" and the "George Effect" translated to over $239 million (£177 million) combined, Brand Finance estimates.

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But Markle, a fixture on red carpets in the US and recently described as "a singular mover of product" by The New York Times, could have even wider influence and fiscal effect than her future sister-in-law.

The 36-year-old actress led a surprisingly relatable life— which included sharing photos of her friends and family, clothes, and travels on her now deleted Instagram and blog — before recently rocketing to global fame. And Markle's American citizenship, along with the few years she spent living in Canada while shooting television drama "Suits," could expand her global fan base. Her style is also decidedly trendier and less traditional than Middleton's.

After Markle and Prince Harry's engagement was announced, the couple posed for photos at Kensington Palace in London. She wore a coat by the Canadian fashion brand Line, a brand beloved by Canadians, but fairly obscure outside the country. Soon after the brand was identified, its site slowed or crashed for many visitors.

All things considered, 2018 is set to be a banner year for the British royal family as they're expected to drum up more than $2.4 billion (£1.8 billion) for the country's economy, according to Brand Finance.

SEE ALSO: Meghan Markle had a surprisingly relatable life before becoming the world's most famous royal to-be — see her former house, car, and wardrobe

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Facebook paid damages to a teenager after a naked photo of her was shared on the site (FB)

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  • Facebook agreed to pay unspecified damages to a teenager whose naked photo was shared on the social network.
  • The case is believed to be the first of its kind anywhere in the world.


Facebook has paid damages to a teenager in Northern Ireland after a naked photograph of her taken when she was 14 was shared on the social network several times, The Telegraph reports.

The image was apparently obtained through blackmail, and reportedly shared on a "shame page" multiple times from November 2014 to January 2016. After the teenager sued for negligence, breach of the Britain's Data Protection Act, and misuse of private information, Facebook reportedly tried to get the case dismissed, arguing it always took the image down once it was reported.

But it has since agreed to pay unspecified damages, as well as the teenager's legal costs. The teenager cannot be named for legal reasons.

The case is believed to be the first of its kind anywhere in the world — and has the potential to open the door to further claims against Facebook and other social networks like it over how they police their platforms.

A spokesperson for Facebook did not immediately respond to Business Insider's request for comment.

In November 2017, the social network tested a new approach to combatting revenge porn— asking users to actively upload their own intimate photos, so the company's software learns what they look like and can automatically flag them if they're shared on its platform.

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This new smartwatch from Skagen is the best-looking wearable I found at CES

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  • Apparel brand Skagen unveiled its first touchscreen smartwatch at tech industry trade show CES. 
  • The Falster smartwatch is supermodern, minimalist, and stylish. It comes in three colors, two of which have gorgeous mesh bands. 
  • The watch runs Android Wear 2.0, Google's smartwatch operating system. 


LAS VEGAS — Danish-inspired apparel brand Skagen just introduced one of the most beautiful smartwatches on the market. 

Called the Falster smartwatch, it's Skagen's first touchscreen watch and the best-looking wearable I found at CES, the tech industry trade show here this week. 

This isn't Skagen's first wearable, but it is the brand's first true smartwatch. It features activity tracking, customizable watch faces, and Google Assistant-powered voice commands. The watch starts at $275 and will be available this month. 

The Falster's design isn't particularly revolutionary. The watch is about twice as thick as a standard analog one. Much like an Apple Watch, it has interchangeable bands. But the Falster's overall look and feel is sleek, modern and fashionable. 

I mean, look at these watches:

Skagen smartwatches

I might be biased because I love mesh watch bands, but the Falster is stunning. Even after looking at the watches for a few days, I still can't decide if I prefer the silver or the rose-gold one — they're both beautiful and incredibly chic.

If mesh isn't your thing, the Falster does come in black with a black leather band — but it makes the watch look much more generic. 

Like a lot of other high-end smartwatches, the Falster runs Android Wear 2.0, Google's smartwatch operating system. While Android Wear itself isn't all that special, what sets it apart is it's open to any and all manufacturers, which allows stylish lifestyle brands such as Skagen to handle the hardware part. 

Skagen is owned by Fossil Group, which also makes Michael Kors- and Kate Spade-branded watches. Those brands have their own stunning smartwatches, which should appeal to people who actually care about how these things look on their wrists.

Skagen's style — which the company describes as Danish-inspired minimalism — is a welcome addition to the world of smartwatches. 

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A brain scientist explains why you black out when you drink too much alcohol

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  • Business Insider spoke to Sunjeev Kamboj, a clinical psychologist at University College London, about why we're sometimes unable to recall details after a night of drinking. 
  • He said that the link between short-term and long-term memory is disrupted when alcohol is present in our blood
  • Kamboj added that a "black-out," where we're totally unable to recall events, occurs when this link is completely severed, with people with a low alcohol tolerance at particular risk.

 

Full transcript below. 

Sunjeev Kamboj: So, alcohol is actually quite a powerful amnestic drug, which means that it prevents the formation of new long-term memories, and this amnestic effect – this effect on memory – is graded, so it depends on how much you drink; the more you drink, the worse your memory becomes.

And it’s generally only memory for new things – learning new facts, learning about new events and so on.

Someone who has drunk a lot of alcohol can still recall very well events from the past, and they can even learn some new bits of information as long as they are only required to recall them over a short period of time.

The problem happens when we ask people to remember things for longer periods of time. Blackouts are a more pronounced form of amnesia, and they happen when – particularly in people who perhaps haven’t developed a strong tolerance to alcohol and drink a lot of alcohol in a short period of time, so binge drinking – and what seems to happen there is that the brain mechanisms that are involved in converting short-term memories into long-term memories is completely disrupted and there’s no possibility of forming a long-term memory when alcohol concentrations are so high.

Under those circumstances people can have very disturbing and frightening experiences because, in addition to having impaired judgement, they can’t remember at all what happened when they were drinking, and that leaves them to try to fill in the details of those events, and that could lead to all kinds of ideas about terrible things that might have happened.

Produced by Fraser Moore. Camera by David Ibekwe.

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The 'January blues' is a real condition — here's why it happens and how you can combat it

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  • If you have been feeling down since the start of the new year, you are not alone.
  • January blues are a real thing, and it can be caused by a number of different things.
  • It is different to Seasonal Affective Disorder, which is brought on by a lack of sunlight.


We're quickly approaching the end of the second week of 2018 meaning the holiday season is well and truly over, and unless you're horribly disorganised, all the festive decorations will boxed up and back in the attic.

The new year is the time for resolutions and new beginnings, but for many people, January brings about a lull in positivity. This is something known as the "January blues,"and according to therapist Rosemary Sword, an author and developer of Time Perspective Therapy, it's very much a real condition.

"It's a form of depression that many people feel after the holidays and sometimes before," Sword told Business Insider. "In the US we call it the 'holiday blues' because it's not unusual for people to start feeling depressed and anxious during the holidays. Some Americans start feeling 'off' in mid to late November as our holidays begin during our Thanksgiving celebration."

In many ways, it makes sense that people don't feel the best at the beginning of the year, as the holidays are over and it's back to work for many of us. It's also the middle of winter, and the next holiday can feel like forever away.

Sword gave six main reasons for people feeling blue at the start of the year. Some of them are conscious, and others are unconscious adjustments in our mood.

1. Holidays are over, meaning it's back to work for many people. The festive decorations are all gone, and everything has returned to normal.

2. Family members and friends who you only see during the holidays are gone.

3. You may not have done everything you planned to over the break.

4. Drinking and eating in excess may have left you feeling sluggish, or you may have put on weight.

5. It's winter and the days are short, it's cold, and there's a lot of rain. Spring is coming but it won't be here for a couple of months.

6. Your New Year's resolutions may be proving hard to stick to, if you have kept them at all.

January or holiday blues are often situational, and it's a different condition to Seasonal Affective Disorder.

"Unlike the January blues, which is a situational depression and associated with the way we think and feel, Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, is clinical depression caused by personal biology," Sword said. "It's the way a person's body works and is a physiological response to fewer hours of sunlight during the winter months."

January blues tends to last a few weeks maximum, but people with SAD can be affected for months at a time. Some people might start feeling sluggish and depressed as soon as the days start to get short in autumn, and it can last until the following spring.

Some of the symptoms of SAD are difficulty falling asleep or sleeping too much, an increase or decrease in appetite, low energy, being irritable or angry, difficulty remembering things, having a hard time handling situations, and a desire for isolation.

"When one experiences the January blues, we know it will pass and don't require medication," Sword said. "But for SAD sufferers, medication, such as an antidepressant, and light therapy — exposure to light to help the body cope with shorter days — may be prescribed."

There are things you can do to boost your mood

There are things you can do to bring yourself out of the January blues. Sword said there are a few simple ways to boost your mood, including recalling positive things you experienced over the holidays, and throughout your life.

You can also make plans for yourself to have a better year than the previous one. These plans can include self-improvement projects, being more sociable, or helping other people who are in need.

Finally, remind yourself it is fine to be hedonistic sometimes.

"Get out in nature, even if it's for a little while," Sword said. "Take a walk around the block and look for wildlife; enjoy a favorite meal with loved ones; call a friend or family member to check in; finish that project you started last summer, if you can. You are unique and valuable so enjoy your beautiful life."

SEE ALSO: Today is the shortest day of the year — here are 3 surprising ways it's likely affecting your health and mood

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The Queen's crown jewels were hidden in a biscuit tin underground to keep them from the Nazis

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  • The Queen's crown jewels were hidden in a biscuit tin underground at Windsor Castle during World War II, according to a BBC documentary.
  • The operation was an effort to keep the precious gems out of Nazi hands.
  • The Queen only learned of the operation — which happened when she was 14 — while filming the documentary.


It's well known that the crown jewels — a collection of crowns, robes, and other regalia kept at the Tower of London for over 600 years — are incredibly precious.

So much so that some gems from the collection were hidden underground in a biscuit tin at Windsor Castle during World War II to keep them away from the Nazis, according to a BBC documentary.

The precious stones were placed in a Bath Oliver tin in a position where the grass could regrow and conceal the hiding place, according to The Times.

The operation was so secret that even the Queen didn't know what had happened until the filming of a new BBC documentary about the Coronation, which is set to be aired on BBC1 at 8 p.m. on Sunday, January 14.

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Royal commentator reportedly Alastair Bruce discovered the story among "confidential correspondence in the Royal Collection."

This correspondence was an "electric set of letters" from royal librarian Sir Owen Morshead to Queen Mary, the mother of George VI. The hiding of the precious gems was ordered by George VI.

In order to hide the precious cargo, a "deep hole" was dug in the grounds "beneath a sally port, one of the secure entries to the castle, and two chambers constructed with steel doors," according to The Times.

The work had to be covered up at night. "They dug out this fresh, very virgin white chalk and they had to hide it with tarpaulins so when the aircraft flew over at night no clue was given to the German Luftwaffe that anything was going on," Bruce wrote.

The Jewels were then locked inside, only accessible through a trapdoor, which still exists.

The most precious jewels — the Black Prince's Ruby and St Edward's Sapphire — were even removed from the Imperial State Crown and kept separately in the biscuit tin "in case of emergency."

A similar tin of vintage Fortis Bath Oliver Biscuits — made in England but belonging to a user in India — can even be bought on eBay for $67.50 (£50).

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Speaking to the Queen for the BBC documentary, Bruce told Her Majesty — who had been only 14 at the time — the story.

"What was so lovely was that the Queen had no knowledge of it," he said. "Telling her seemed strangely odd."

He added that Her Majesty had been aware that the jewels were hidden at Windsor by 1940, when the government was trying to hide stocks of water, but had no idea where they were buried — or that they were hiding in a biscuit tin.

The tell-all documentary will see the Queen talking about her Coronation, including what it's really like to wear a heavy crown and robes.

She reportedly jokes that you "cannot look down" while wearing the 2lbs, 13oz Imperial State Crown or you neck would "break."

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A flight attendant says 'nobody cares' if you actually turn off your phone on a plane — and reveals the disgusting reason you should never drink coffee in the air

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  • An unnamed flight attendant revealed secrets of the trade in an interview with Vice.
  • She says nobody switches off their phones on planes, not even staff members.
  • There's also an ideal time for joining the mile-high club, she says — but there's never a good time to order coffee in the sky.
  • She says there's only one way to score an upgrade, and it's all about bargaining power.


There's something intriguing about the life of airline crew members. Maybe it's the pristine uniform, the jet-setting lifestyle, or the secret codes and signs. But people in the industry often say the job is nowhere near as glamorous as it appears.

Confirming that is an unnamed flight attendant at a "major American airline" who revealed some fantastically funny — and disgusting — truths about life in the air in an interview with Vice.

The flight attendant, whom Vice gave the pseudonym Betty, gave an honest account of some of the unfortunate realities behind the scenes.

'Nobody turns off their phones'

Betty says not all people abide by the instruction to turn off their phones before takeoff.

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"Nobody turns off their phones," she told Vice. "I don't, even.

"All of those commands are really just precautionary. You're not allowed to get up when taxiing to the gate, but we're going 3 miles an hour. What's actually going to happen?"

She added: "I guess at some point, something had to have happened for them to have made the rule. At least, that's the bulls--- excuse they gave us during training. Some time, at some point, someone did get hurt.

"I mean, I push it. I don't always wear my seatbelt. Actually, one time I didn't wear it, the landing was pretty rough and I jerked forward and hit my head, so I felt like a bit of an a------ there.

"Yeah, but keep your phone on. No one cares."

If you want to join the mile-high club, do it during food or drink service

For passengers looking to have a little fun while aboard, Betty says there's a best time to attempt to join the mile-high club — at least on small airplanes.

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"Wait for service, when the attendants are all in the aisle," she said. "Everyone's busy and has a job at that point, and I don't care what's going on behind me then. There could be 10 people in the bathroom and I wouldn't be aware of it."

This probably wouldn't work on a jumbo jet, though, where she says crew members are dedicated to patrolling the toilets.

"For shorter flights, the attendants aren't watching you like you think we are," she said. "We're on our phones in the back with the others or doing our jobs. We don't want to be near that bathroom at any point in time, and we'll avoid it at all costs."

However, she added: "Godspeed if you're gonna try and have sex in one. They're disgusting and small, but it is possible."

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A plane bathroom is the 'most disgusting place on the planet' ...

On the subject of loos, she's also not impressed by how passengers use them.

"It's crazy how dirty people are on planes," she told Vice. "Those bathrooms are the most disgusting places on the planet. There's no way these people act this way in their normal lives, but they get on a plane and go cool, I'll just pee all over the floor and dump my peanuts right on the ground."

... and the coffee could be swimming with E. coli

Betty says there's another disgusting aspect of flying: the coffee.

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"Don't drink the coffee on airplanes," she said. "It's the same potable water that goes through the bathroom system.

"We recently had a test for E. coli in our water, and it didn't pass, and then maintenance came on and hit a couple buttons and it passed," she continued. "So avoid any hot water or tea. Bottled and ice is fine, of course."

Annoying passengers get ignored

If a passenger gets on her nerves, Betty has a few methods of dealing with them, she told Vice.

"Usually, I spend the majority of my time just ignoring them," she said. "You don't really have much to work with, so it becomes a power play.

"I try to assert myself as much as possible and let them know I'm the boss by not giving them their orange juice with ice, or giving it to them with ice if they asked for no ice. Weak pours for drinks, stuff like that."

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She says that to kill time on a long, boring flight, she'll often play "who I would save first."

"Like in the instance of an emergency landing," she said. "Obviously get the kids off first and all that."

She added: "You spend a lot of time daydreaming, a lot of time staring at your passengers and mentally putting them in situations with you that would never happen."

A free upgrade can be as simple as giving candy to the crew

And finally, it wouldn't be an airline interview without asking the one burning question everyone has: How can I score a free upgrade?

Her answer: just be extra nice to the crew once the doors have closed.

"Give me candy, and I'll give you whatever you want," she told Vice. "You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours."

She added: "If there're seats open in business class, and it's not going to affect me negatively, or there are first-class seats open and I can still eat my first-class meal if I put you up there, I'll put you up there. As long as you're nice to me, no problem."

Oh, and flight attendants apparently "don't keep count of those mini bottles of alcohol," she said.

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7 European cities where it's cheaper to stay in a hotel than an Airbnb

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As the 'January blues' sweep in, sometimes it seems that the only light at the end of the tunnel is the thought of booking a long, sunny getaway to look forward to.

But with money after Christmas still being a little tight, this emergency vacation needs to be cost-effective if it's going to work with your bank balance and savings plan for the year ahead.

Voucher website VoucherCloud has looked into the average cost for one person to stay in an Airbnb vs. a three-star hotel across every capital city in Europe to work out in which cities an Airbnb is a savvy decision, and in which locations "splashing out" on a hotel might actually save you some pennies.

Although it's easy to assume that an Airbnb is always the most cost-efficient type of accommodation when travelling, a three-star hotel is cheaper or the same price as the average Airbnb in eight of the 48 European capital cities surveyed, according to VoucherCloud's findings.

In fact, in Andorra's capital city of Andorra la Vella, a three-star hotel (£43, or $59) is not only just half the cost of the average Airbnb (£79, or $108), but you can book yourself into a five-star hotel for less than the average listing on Airbnb's website too (£77, or $105).

Scroll on to discover every European capital city where you're better off booking a hotel than an Airbnb, ranked by price difference in ascending order.

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7. Tallinn, Estonia

Average cost of a three-star hotel (per night):£44/$60

Average cost of an Airbnb (per night):£46/$63

Price reduction: 4.3%



6. Yerevan, Armenia

Average cost of a three-star hotel (per night):£39/$53

Average cost of an Airbnb (per night):£42/$57

Price reduction: 7.2%



5. Baku, Azerbaijan

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Average cost of a three-star hotel (per night):£37/$50

Average cost of an Airbnb (per night):£40/$55

Price reduction: 7.5%



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Mark Zuckerberg just drastically changed the way Facebook operates because he says he's been rethinking his legacy

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  • Facebook says it will surface posts from friends more prominently in the News Feed than those from brands and publishers.
  • The change was inspired by Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg's having children.
  • "It's important to me that when Max and August grow up that they feel like what their father built was good for the world," Zuckerberg told The New York Times.


The biggest change in years to Facebook's main interface — its News Feed — is a direct result of the social network's CEO's having kids and rethinking what he wants his legacy to be.

"It's important to me that when Max and August grow up that they feel like what their father built was good for the world," Mark Zuckerberg told The New York Times in an interview published Thursday.

Facebook's 2 billion users, as of Thursday, will now see status updates from friends and family more frequently than posts from news organizations or brands. In short: more pet/baby/food photos and birthday messages, fewer links to your favorite news site (hi!).

Zuckerberg said the change was a direct reflection of his being a father, adding that he was willing to accept short-term losses Facebook may face as a result.

On Friday morning, Facebook's stock was taking heat:

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Zuckerberg also said the News Feed change was intended to "make sure that our products are not just fun, but are good for people."

But by de-emphasizing content from brands and links to publications, Facebook is likely to become less valuable to them, thus diminishing its potential — or at least perceived potential — to make money.

Meanwhile, investors and advertisers are likely to be worried by a line in Zuckerberg's Facebook post announcing the changes.

"By making these changes, I expect the time people spend on Facebook and some measures of engagement will go down," Zuckerberg wrote. "But I also expect the time you do spend on Facebook will be more valuable."

Zuckerberg, however, sees the change as a readjustment toward what Facebook was intended to do all along: connect people.

"What are we really here to do?" he told The Times. "If what we're here to do is help people build relationships, then we need to adjust."

Read Zuckerberg's announcement of the News Feed change:

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Here's how much it costs to buy a home in the 10 hottest housing markets of 2018

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The US housing market has regained its momentum.

About half of all homes in the country are worth as much or more than they were in April 2007, during America's most recent housing boom, according to data from Zillow.

But some real estate markets are really on fire, with quickly rising home values and rental prices, increasing populations, low unemployment rates, steady income growth, and strong job opportunities, according to Zillow's latest housing report.

Below, check out the top 10 hottest real estate markets in America for 2018, along with median home values and rent prices, median household income, and projected year-over-year growth.

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10. Dallas, Texas

Median household income: $63,812

Median home value: $218,300

Median rent: $1,621

Real estate market growth forecast: 4.7%



9. Portland, Oregon

Median household income: $68,676

Median home value: $370,700

Median rent: $1,902

Real estate market growth forecast: 3.7%

 



8. Nashville, Tennessee

Median household income: $60,030

Median home value: $228,900

Median rent: $1,498

Real estate market growth forecast: 3.8%

 

 



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Flight attendants share the 25 things they wish passengers would stop doing — and one thing you can get away with

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We all have annoying habits, and travel tends to bring out the worst in people.

If you have any sympathy for your flight attendants, who, day in and day out, are privy to some of the most extreme human behavior, you'd make an effort to do better.

The first step is knowing just what you're doing wrong.

Luckily for you, we asked flight attendants everywhere to share the annoying things they wish passengers would stop doing, and more than 60 were happy to chime in.

Here are 25 things you may not have even known you were doing wrong, and one thing you can probably stop worrying about:

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Hogging the overhead bins

"Put the suitcases in the overhead and put your small bags underneath the seat in front so we don't have to run out of space and have to check bags."

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Not saying hello

"I wish passengers would acknowledge the crew when they board."



Poor timing

"Stop trying to hand us trash on the beverage cart or asking us to take your trash while we're handing out food."



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17 of the most bizarre photos from this year's CES tech industry trade show

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  • CES, the Consumer Electronics Show, features almost 4,000 exhibitors showcasing their newest consumer technologies.
  • This year, around 170,000 people are attending CES.
  • Some bizarre technology has been demonstrated so far, including robot strippers and house-cleaning robots. 

    

Some bizarre things are happening at the Consumer Electronics Show, better known as CES, this year.

Robot strippers are pole-dancing, machines are folding the laundry, and Sophia the Robot appears to be at war on Twitter with model Chrissy Teigen.

Hosted by the Consumer Technology Association, CES is hosted in Las Vegas and features 3,900 exhibitors showing off their newest consumer technologies. Major brands that participated in this year's CES include Intel, Ford, LG, Samsung, and Sony.

However, some of the stranger technologies are coming from lesser-known names. The gentleman's club Sapphire Las Vegas featured robot strippers with CCTV cameras for heads, and Aeolus exhibited their house-cleaning robot. Even Sophie the Robot, the world's first robot citizen, is causing a stir — tweeting at model Chrissy Teigen from CES, asking for makeup tips. 

While most of the technology from CES — such as 3D televisions or Faraday Future cars — tends not to catch on with the general public, it's still a sight to see.   

A few of the most exciting items Business Insider saw coming out of CES this year included the $4,000 Peloton Tread, a high-end treadmill, Samsung's QLED displays, the Skagen's Falster smartwatch, which runs Android Wear 2.0, and Google's smartwatch operating system. 

Robotic human sleeves are on display at CES to promote Netflix's sci-fi series "Altered Carbon."



Aureole's "wine angel" rappels up the wind tower at the Mandalay Bay hotel and casino during CES.



An intelligent vision robot plays a game of Scrabble at the Industrial Technology Research Institute booth.



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January is 'divorce month' — a lawyer and a psychotherapist break down the top signs a marriage is about to dissolve

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  • January is typically the month when divorce filings begin to spike.
  • 2018 may be an especially popular year for divorce because of impending changes to US tax policy.
  • We spoke to a divorce lawyer and a psychotherapist about the top signs that a marriage is heading for disaster. Those signs include: You've stopped talking, you're fighting over money, and your expectations for marriage aren't being met.


It's divorce season. 

The opposite of December's engagement season, divorce filings begin to spike in January, peaking in February and March.

It's not the gloomy weather that does couples in. Typically, it's the post-holiday jolt back to reality that has them questioning their future together.

"What I find is that most people in December want to get through the holidays. Nobody wants a divorce summons put into their stocking," Jacqueline Newman, a managing partner at a top New York City divorce law firm, told Business Insider.

For couples with kids, it can be especially important to "hold things together" during the holidays, Kathryn Smerling, a New York City-based psychotherapist who helps couples going through divorce, told Business Insider. That's true, Smerling said, even if kids are well aware that something's going on between Mom and Dad.

But once the holiday glow has waned and spouses settle back into old habits, many people flock to Newman's office to get a better idea of what a divorce would look like. She calls it "keeping your options open" month.

"They want to be able to be in a position to make an educated decision," Newman said. "They come in and they say, 'What would happen with my kids? What would it look like financially?' It's the information-gathering stage."

From there, clients are able to digest the practical sides of a split, and many return in February and March ready to commit to the decision. But not every person who consults an attorney ends up actually filing for divorce.

"One of the first questions I ask clients is, 'Are you sure you want to get divorced?'" Newman said. "Because I suggest trying everything you can before you come into my office because you never want to look back. Divorce is financially expensive, emotionally expensive, and you have to make sure that this is exactly the choice that you want to make."

The numbers look different for every couple, but Newman said a typical divorce in Manhattan might cost between $20,000 and hundreds of thousands.

Across the US, the next 12 months may be a more popular time than ever for couples to get divorced.

That's because under the new tax plan recently passed by Congress, alimony payments are no longer tax-deductible. That particular change takes effect January 2019, so couples may rush to get their divorce finalized before then.

It's unclear exactly how this change in the tax policy will affect every divorcing couple. But Newman said that ultimately, there may be "less money in the pot to split" between ex-spouses.

So how can you tell if you and your partner are on the precipice of a permanent split?

While there are no hard and fast rules — by no means do any of these indicators guarantee you're destined for divorce — there are a few signs that could indicate you're in troubled waters.

SEE ALSO: 7 things science says predict divorce

You stop talking

Newman often sees clients who have experienced a complete breakdown in communication. Spouses stop sharing their issues, let alone talk them through.

"It gets to a point where you're not speaking anymore, and then you start to not care that you're not speaking anymore," she said. "Or one person cares and they get angry about it and the other person doesn't want to deal with the anger because they're exhausted or they have their own anger issues. That will ultimately lead to indifference."

Smerling added that couples approaching a divorce are often "not engaged with each other" and wind up living "parallel lives," even if they're living under the same roof.



Your partner has no interest in listening to you — or vice versa

Smerling talked about "stonewalling," which happens when one partner completely shuts down and displays no empathy for the other. For example, the person might "sit there and roll their eyes while the other is talking."

(Interestingly, leading relationship psychologist John Gottman cites stonewalling as one of the key predictors of divorce.)



You've become a 'pursuer' and a 'distancer'

Smerling often sees one partner trying to make a connection with the other, who keeps retreating further away because they've lost trust in their partner.

"Nothing the partner says resonates," Smerling said. "You can see a roadblock in communication."

Typically, the more the pursuer tries to rekindle the connection, the more the distancer withdraws, which only prompts the pursuer to work harder. Smerling described it as a destructive "cycle" that's hard to break.

Alternatively, both partners might withdraw from conflict, which can be an equally unhealthy dynamic. "Those are the people that quietly divorced and surprised everyone in the neighborhood," Smerling said.



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