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All these TV shows are ending in 2018, including 'The Americans' which ends tonight

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The Americans

As we get further into 2018, more of your favorite TV shows are ending their runs, and a lot have ended already. 

Shows ending this year include FX's critical darling "The Americans," which airs its intense series finale Wednesday night after a six-season run. A lot of shows have already ended, including ABC's "The Middle," "Scandal," and "Once Upon a Time." 

You can also expect to see some series wrap up over the summer including "The Fosters" on Freeform, "Nashville" on CMT, and "The Originals" on The CW. 

A majority of these shows were popular with critics or audiences throughout their runs, and some, like "The Americans" and Fox's "New Girl," considered among the best shows on TV.

But every show has to end at some point. These have run their course, and their networks decided it's time for them to go.

Is your favorite show coming to an end this year? Has it already ended?

Here are all the shows coming to an end in 2018:

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"Portlandia" — ended March 22, after eight seasons on IFC



"Love" — ended March 29, after three seasons on Netflix



"Scandal" — ended April 19, after seven seasons on ABC



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Roseanne Barr blames Ambien for the racist tweet that caused ABC to cancel her show

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  • Roseanne Barr took to Twitter early Wednesday morning to suggest that the racist tweet she sent about former Obama adviser Valerie Jarrett, which prompted ABC to cancel her sitcom, was the result of taking the prescription drug Ambien.
  • "guys I did something unforgiveable so do not defend me," she wrote in a since-deleted tweet. "It was 2 in the morning and I was ambien tweeting."

ABC cancelled Roseanne Barr's sitcom, "Roseanne," on Tuesday after Barr tweeted a racist comment that compared former Obama adviser Valerie Jarrett to an ape. 

Barr has gone on a Twitter barrage following the show's cancellation, apologizing to Jarrett and, in a series of tweets, suggesting that her racist comment about Jarrett was the result of taking the prescription sleep drug Ambien.

"I think Joe Rogan is right about ambien,” Barr wrote in a since-deleted tweet around 2 a.m. ET on Wednesday morning. "Not giving excuses for what I did(tweeted) but I've done weird stuff while on ambien-cracked eggs on the wall at 2am etc."

"guys I did something unforgiveable so do not defend me," she wrote in another since-deleted tweet. "It was 2 in the morning and I was ambien tweeting-it was memorial day too-i went 2 far & do not want it defended-it was egregious Indefensible. I made a mistake I wish I hadn't but...don't defend it please. ty."

Despite her insistence that her followers not defend the tweet, Barr on Wednesday morning retweeted a number of conservative users who suggested that liberal commentators should be fired for making insensitive jokes about President Trump, seeming to point to a double standard in Barr's firing. 

She also followed up with a tweet on Wednesday morning saying that she didn't blame Ambien for the tweet but "blamed myself," in response to a Twitter user suggesting she had blamed the drug.

"Yes, I have had odd ambien experiences on tweeting late at night-like many other ppl do," she wrote. "I BLAME MYSELF OK? it's just an explanation not an excuse, Ok, bully?"

SEE ALSO: ABC cancels 'Roseanne' hours after racist tweet by its star

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Most vitamins are useless, but here are the ones you should take

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  • Most vitamins do not improve our health, recent research has concluded.
  • A new review of more than 100 studies found no evidence that people who take the most popular vitamins have a lower risk of heart disease, heart attack, stroke, or early death from any cause.
  • That includes multivitamins, vitamins C and D, and calcium.
  • A tiny number of supplements are exceptions to this rule, such as folic acid for pregnant women. Read on to find out which supplements you should take and avoid.

It seems like simple, obvious advice: Eat your vegetables, get some exercise, and — of course — take your vitamins.

Or not.

Decades of research has failed to find substantial evidence that vitamins and supplements do any significant good. In fact, recent studies skew in the opposite direction, finding that certain vitamins may be bad for you.

Several supplements have been linked with an increase in certain cancers, for example, while others have been associated with a rise in the risk of kidney stones. Still others have been linked with an overall higher risk of death from any cause.

So here are the vitamins and supplements you should take — and the ones you should avoid.

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Multivitamins: Skip them — you get everything you need with a balanced diet.

For decades, it was assumed that multivitamins were critical to overall health. Vitamin C would "boost your immune system;" vitamin A could protect your vision; vitamin B might keep you energized.

Scientific research suggests this is false. A new review of more than 100 studies published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology found no evidence linking multivitamins to a reduced risk of heart disease, heart attack, stroke, or death from any cause.

Some studies even suggest that consuming vitamins in excess can cause harm. A large, longterm 2011 study of close to 39,000 older women found that women who took vitamins over the course of more than 20 years actually had a higher overall risk of death than those who didn't take any supplements.



Vitamin D: Take it — It helps keep your bones strong and it's hard to get from food.

Vitamin D isn't present in most of the foods we eat, but it's a critical ingredient that keeps our bones strong by helping us absorb calcium. Getting sunlight helps our bodies produce vitamin D as well, but it can be tough to get enough in the winter.

Several recent reviews have found that people who took vitamin D supplements daily lived longer, on average, than those who didn't.



Antioxidants: Skip them — an excess of these has been linked to an increased risk of certain cancers, and you can eat berries instead.

Vitamins A, C, and E are antioxidants found in many fruits — especially berries — and veggies. They've been touted for their potential to protect against cancer.

But studies suggest that when taken in excess, antioxidants can actually be harmful. A large, long-term study of male smokers found that those who regularly took vitamin A were more likely to get lung cancer than those who didn't. And a 2007 review of trials of several different types of antioxidant supplements put it this way: "Treatment with beta carotene, vitamin A, and vitamin E may increase mortality."



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21 photos of North Korea that Kim Jong Un wouldn't want you to see

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North Korean leader Kim Jong Un keeps a close watch over the media in his country, controlling much of what citizens know of the outside world, and vice versa.

Though Kim has fought to present the Hermit Kingdom to the world as a bastion of military might, nuclear power, and anti-West sentiment, the reality of daily life is grim.

Much of the country lives in poverty, tens of thousands of people are held as political prisoners, and the government tightly controls most aspects of life.

Here's what Kim's North Korea looks like:

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READ MORE: A photographer captured these dismal photos of life in North Korea

Day-to-day life in North Korea can be bleak.

Source: Business Insider



The Hermit Kingdom, one of the most closed-off places in the world, has experienced increasingly severe food shortages in recent years.

Source: Business Insider



Childhood in North Korea can be difficult. Many children in rural areas have to work on farms, and forced labor drives much of the country's economic output.

Sources: Business Insider, Human Rights Watch



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Having a good sense of smell could be better for your sex life — here's why

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  • A new study suggests how people with a better sense of smell may enjoy sex more.
  • It wasn't that they performed better or had more desire, but they did report finding sexual encounters more "pleasant."
  • Women with a good sense of smell also had more orgasms during sex.
  • More research is needed to suggest causation though, as where women are in the menstrual cycle can impact both their sense of smell and their sexual arousal.


Someone's scent can be a lot more revealing than you might think. It turns out we may be able to smell fear, and even aspects of someone's personality. But all of this is probably subconscious.

Smell plays a role in seduction, too. Some research has shown how a man's scent can make them more attractive to women — if his diet consists of more fruits and vegetables rather than refined carbohydrates, that is.

Also, the way a man smells can impact the amount a woman drinks when she is around him, as one study showed that women who smelt male pheromones were more likely to drink more than women who sniffed water. The researchers concluded it could be because of the cultural link between drinking and sexual activity.

Speaking of sex, men with a poor sense of smell have been found in some research to have fewer sexual partners, but the actual reasons for this were unclear. That is until a new study, just published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior and spotted by BPS Digest, found that people with a keener sense of smell may find sex more enjoyable.

In the study, a team led by Johanna Bendas at the Technical University of Dresden in Germany analysed the smelling abilities of 42 women and 28 men aged 18 to 36 with "Sniffin' Sticks." Then, they were asked a few questions about their sexual desire, experience, how often they had orgasms, how pleasant they found sexual activities, as well as frequency and duration of their sexual encounters.

Overall, there was no significant relationship between how sensitive their olfactory sense was and sexual desire and performance. However, those with a better sense of smell did report finding their sexual relations more pleasant, and women with more sensitive noses were significantly more likely to orgasm during sex than those who struggle to smell things.

In the paper, the authors write how sexual arousal could be increased because "the perception of body odors such as vaginal fluids, sperm and sweat seems to enrich the sexual experience."

But external factors could be at play too. The results don't account for causation, merely the correlation of sense of smell and enjoying sex. Also, female participants were not asked about where they were in their menstrual cycle — which research has shown can have an impact on both sense of smell and sexual arousal.

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All your favorite Netflix original shows that have been renewed for another season

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Netflix has begun to cancel shows, but that doesn't mean it's getting rid of your favorites.

40 Netflix original series will be returning with new seasons in the near future.

Only a few of the series have official release dates, including the upcoming premieres of "Marvel's Luke Cage" and "GLOW."

This week, the streaming service announced the renewal of its Danish dystopian series, "The Rain."

Other hit Netflix shows that have been renewed by the streaming service, like "Stranger Things" and "Black Mirror," are either in production or awaiting release.

For this list, we have included only renewed Netflix series that are yet to air, and we've included official release dates if applicable. We've excluded children's shows and reality series.

Here are the 40 Netflix original series that are coming back for another season:

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"Marvel's Luke Cage" (Season 2) — Premieres June 22



"Glow" (Season 2) — Premieres June 29

Date renewed:August 10, 2017



"Orange Is the New Black" (Seasons 6 and 7)

Date renewed: February 5, 2016



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The 50 best places to live in America for 2018

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  • U.S. News & World Report releases a list of the best places to live in America every year.
  • The best places to live 2018 ranking looked at five metrics: job market, value, quality of life, desirability, and net migration.
  • The best place to live in America is Austin, Texas, followed by Colorado Springs, Colorado.

 

When deciding where to put down roots, many factors are in the eye of the beholder, such as climate, politics, or proximity to extended family.

Other aspects are coveted by nearly everybody: affordable housing, access to well-paying jobs, a low cost of living, good schools, and quality healthcare. In its ranking of the best places to live in America for 2018, U.S. News & World Report gathered data on these crucial components for more than 100 US cities.

They then categorized the data into five indexes for each city — job market, value, quality of life, desirability, and net migration — to definitively rank these major metro areas. You can read U.S. News' full methodology here.

Scores for "value," a blend of annual household income and cost of living, and "quality of life," which accounts for crime, college readiness, commute, and other factors, are included below on a 10-point scale, as well as the city's population and average annual salary.

Austin, Texas, came out on top for the second consecutive year, while Colorado Springs, Colorado, jumped from No. 11 to take the No. 2 spot, edging out the state's capital, Denver, which rounded out the top three.

Nearly a dozen cities made the top-50 list for the first time since 2017, including Huntsville, Alabama; Asheville, North Carolina; and Anchorage, Alaska.

Keep reading to discover the 50 best places to live in America.

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50. Lansing, Michigan

Population: 470,348

Average annual salary: $47,550

Quality of life: 7.0

Value index: 7.1

Lansing, the diverse capital of Michigan, earns a spot on the list for its affordability, abundance of jobs, and local flavor. The area is home to everyone from career government workers to recent college graduates, and "you can go from a college campus to a waving wheat field in 10 minutes," one local expert said.

Residents love Lansing for its sports culture and fine arts scene, and although it gets chilly in the winters, the sunny summers more than make up for it.



49. Cincinnati, Ohio

Population: 2,146,410

Average annual salary: $48,130

Quality of life: 6.4

Value: 7.7

Cincinnati is a city that loves its food, sports, and culture. There's something for everyone in the Midwest's Queen City, from a strong job market to a busy event calendar filled with museums, baseball, and local heritage events.

Residents appreciate the city's affordability — housing there is cheaper than the national average, despite Cincinnati being one of the 30 biggest metro areas in the US.



48. Syracuse, New York

Population: 660,652

Average annual salary: $48,530

Quality of life: 7.1

Value: 7.6

It might get 124 inches-plus of snow per year, but don't let the blustery climate deter you: Syracuse boasts a low cost of living, easy access to both the city center and surrounding suburbs, and a host of cultural activities, including the Milton J. Rubenstein Museum of Science & Technology and the Rosamond Gifford Zoo.

Home to Syracuse University, the town also rallies behind the Orange during basketball season, cheering the team to victory.



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The 5 most anticipated new TV shows premiering in June

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kevin costner yellowstoneAs the summer TV season gets underway, some highly anticipated new shows are premiering next month.

To find out which shows audiences are anticipating the most, the TV tracking app TV Time analyzed data from its 2.1 million global users to see which upcoming TV shows viewers had followed the most frequently on its app.

The list includes series like the Kevin Costner-led drama "Yellowstone" from the Paramount Network, and "Marvel's Cloak & Dagger" from Freeform.

Here are the 5 new TV shows that viewers are anticipating the most in June, according to TV Time:

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5. "American Woman" — Premieres June 7 on Paramount Network

Summary: "Inspired by the upbringing of co-executive producer and Real Housewife of Beverly Hills Kyle Richards, this series follows an unconventional mom named Bonnie (Alicia Silverstone) struggling to raise her daughters with the help of her two best friends Kathleen (Mena Suvari) and Diana (Jennifer Bartels) as they discover their own brand of independence amid the rise of second-wave feminism in the 1970s."



4. "Dietland" — Premieres June 4 on AMC

Summary: "A wickedly funny and extraordinarily timed satire about Plum Kettle, a ghostwriter for the editor of one of New York’s hottest fashion magazines."



3. "Are You Human Too?" — Premieres June 4 on KBS TV2

Summary: "Can you actually protect a robot? Nam Shin is a son from a family who runs a large company. After an unexpected accident, he falls into a coma. His mother Oh Ro Ra is an authority on brain science and artificial intelligence. She creates an android named Nam Shin III which looks like just like her son Nam Shin."



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I just turned 40 — here are 8 life lessons I wish I'd learned a decade ago

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  • Life lessons often only come with time and mistakes made.
  • Figuring out financial responsibility, the importance of maintaining health, and having patience with my career would have helped me be more successful.
  • Here are eight crucial life lessons that I wish someone had told me a decade ago.

 

When I was in my late 20s, my boss and I used to have epic lunches where we'd chat about life. One day, he told me that when you turn 30, you need to start being responsible. I didn't take him seriously, but now that I'm 40, I wish I had.

Here are eight of the hard-earned lessons I've learned leading up to my fortieth year that I wish someone had told me a decade ago:

SEE ALSO: The lesson I learned in my 30s that changed how I live my life

1. You may see some friends less often, but the bond remains strong

I've found that the closest friends I've had for the past 20 years are the ones from my fraternity — it truly is a forever bond. As life moves on, though, people do, too.

Some of your friends will move to different states, and some will get married, have kids, and end up immersed in a suburban bubble. Your inner circle will become smaller and smaller as you get older.

But that's not to say that the folks you see less often are gone forever. With many of my fraternity brothers, when we get together, we're still able to pick up right where we left off. It's like no time has passed. You just can't get bogged down with wondering when you’ll see them again or feel insecure about why they haven’t called.  



2. Your parents will need taking care of

My parents are on the verge of turning 70, and their health is becoming a concern. Between the two of them they have high cholesterol, hearing loss, and multiple medications, and doctor visits are becoming more and more frequent.

It's important to understand your family’s health and medical history, and to know all of their pertinent information so you can handle any medical situation that may arise.



3. An extravagant wedding is overrated

If there was ever a moment where the idiom "If I knew then what I know now" fits into this post, it pertains to my wedding. Yes, it was beautiful – everyone we wanted was there, we had an outdoor ceremony, the music was amazing, and the caterer's pigs-in-a-blanket were hand-rolled!

But weddings can be uber-expensive, especially in the New York City area. Planning a wedding often causes stress for the bride and groom and strife among the parents paying for it.

If you really want to have a wedding, focus on curating your guest list, paring it down only to the folks who must be there. Do what I would do now if I had the chance to do it all again: Take a long and lovely honeymoon and start your life together without this nuptial nonsense.



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The 24 most expensive cities around the world to rent a 2-bedroom apartment

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  • Hong Kong is the most expensive city in the world to rent a two-bedroom apartment, according to a report from Deutsche Bank.
  •  Average rent prices in Wellington and Dublin increased over 20% since last year but Tokyo, Frankfurt, and Melbourne all had at least 9% decreases in rent.
  • Average rent in New York City is about $800 lower than in the most expensive US city, San Francisco. 

Housing costs likely eat up the biggest share of your paycheck, no matter where in the world you live.

But looking at the average rent for a two-bedroom apartment in the world's largest cities, that number can range dramatically from about $300 in Bangalore, India, to more than $3,700 in Hong Kong, according to a new report from Deutsche Bank Market Research. 

Hong Kong was the second most expensive city for housing last year but overtook San Francisco on this year's report. Wellington jumped the most spots thanks to a 28% year-to-year change in apartment pricing and moved ahead five places to the 19th most expensive city for housing. Meanwhile, Melbourne and Frankfurt, Germany, dropped seven spots each, with the latter moving out of the top 24.

The report sources prices from Expatistan, a site that tracks cost-of-living expenses in over 200 countries, for "monthly rent for mid-range two-bedroom apartment" in nearly 50 cities.

Below, check out the 24 most expensive cities in the world to rent an apartment.

All prices are average and in US dollars.

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24. Shanghai, China — $1,343



23. Chicago, United States — $1,421



22. Toronto, Canada — $1,502



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There's even more evidence of the powerful link between your diet and your brain

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What you eat can have a powerful effect on how you feel.

For people with depression, the link between mind and plate may be even more important.

Evidence is building that eating plans like the Mediterranean diet may help decrease the symptoms of depression when added to someone's current treatment — and it may be part of a growing trend toward embracing food as a component of medicine. In addition to curbing the symptoms of depression, colorful and diverse diets rich in vegetables, fish, and olive oil may also be preventive, since people who eat this way tend to have a lower risk of developing the disease in the first place.

The benefits of these diets aren't limited to people with mental illness, however; vegetable- and fish-based eating plans also appear to be helpful for losing weight, protecting the mind, and reducing the risk of other serious conditions like heart disease, diabetes, Alzheimer's, and even some forms of cancer.

Mary Lou Chatterton, a professor at Deakin University in Australia, was one of the lead authors of a recently published paper looking at the link between a Mediterranean diet and depression symptoms.

"It just makes sense to eat this kind of diet," Chatterton told Business Insider. "Most importantly, it's about getting away from the processed foods."

Cutting out processed foods

cereal taste test review 5137Swapping a cereal bar out and replacing it with a handful of nuts and frozen berries doesn't sound like a huge dietary leap — but look closely, and you'll find that it is. On the ingredient panel on the back of the average snack bar are items like flour, high fructose corn syrup, and sugar — heavily processed ingredients that don't fill us up and leave us craving more food.

Study after study has found evidence that diets high in processed ingredients aren't just bad for our waistlines, but may also contribute to depression and other diseases like diabetes, some forms of cancer, and heart disease. Eliminating them appears to alleviate some symptoms of depression, help us lose weight, and slash our disease risk.

For a study published last year in the journal BMC Medicine, Chatterton and her colleagues took a group of depressed people who'd been eating a traditional processed-food diet and placed half of them on a Mediterranean-style eating plan. That group ate lots of fresh or frozen fruits and vegetables, grilled or baked fish, nuts, olive oil, and whole grains. After three months, the depressive symptoms in the Mediterranean group plummeted. The people who didn't change their diets saw no change.

Importantly, most of Chatterton's study participants were also treating their depression with an evidence-based approach like antidepressant medications or talk therapy, meaning that the dietary changes served as an additional tool.

"Improving your diet can be therapeutic," Chatterton said. "I think we're onto something, for sure."

Beyond treating current depression, some research suggests that embracing a plant-based eating regimen might also play a helpful role in preventing the disease.

In a January study published in the Journal of Affective Disorders, researchers found that a diet rich in vegetables, fruits, healthy fats, protein, and whole grains was linked with a reduced risk of developing depression.

Last summer, a group of Chinese scientists who compared this style of eating plan against a traditional "Western diet" of processed meats and refined-grain products like white bread came to similar conclusions. After analyzing evidence from 21 studies done in 10 countries, the researchers concluded that people with healthier diets were significantly less likely to have depression than those on the typical processed-food plan.

Mediterranean for the mind

avocado smoked salmon blueberries healthy food meal bowl tomatoes lunchIncreasing evidence also suggests that Mediterranean diets are linked with a wealth of other benefits for the brain, including protection against age-related cognitive decline.

A Mediterranean-style plan called the MIND diet is catching researchers' eyes for its potential to benefit people who've survived a stroke. Just like the Mediterranean diet, the MIND diet emphasizes vegetables, seafood, olive oil, and wine. It puts added focus on green leafy veggies, berries, beans, whole grains, and poultry. Adherents to both plans limit or eliminate processed foods, pastries, sweets, anything fried, red meat, cheese, butter, and margarine.

In people who've survived a stroke — a severe episode that doubles the risk of developing dementia — the MIND diet may help slow cognitive decline, one recent study suggested. That finding builds on research published last summer and jibes with a series of six additional studies highlighted in the most recent issue of the Journal of Gerontology. The overall conclusion: Mediterranean-style diets were linked with beneficial mental outcomes like better performance on cognitive tests.

"These findings lend support to the hypothesis that diet modification may be an important public health strategy," Claire McEvoy, the lead author of the recent paper and a nutritional epidemiologist at the University of California San Francisco, wrote in the paper.

Healthy fats, protein, and fiber

salmon asparagus vegetables fish healthy meal dinner plateResearchers can't yet say for sure why eating like a Mediterranean appears to be so beneficial for your brain. But they have some clues, most of which have to do with three key components of the diet: healthy fat, protein, and fiber.

Both the Mediterranean and the MIND meal plans are rich in two types of healthy fat: monounsaturated and omega-3 fatty acids. Previous studies have found a link between these ingredients and a reduced risk of dementia, as well as higher cognitive performance.

The fiber-rich green vegetables and berries emphasized in the MIND diet have been shown to help protect against progressive loss of the structure or function of brain cells. This loss, known as neurodegeneration, is a key characteristic of diseases like Parkinson's and Alzheimer's.

In addition, these meal plans balance their fibrous and creamy ingredients with plenty of protein — a key ingredient for fueling muscles and keeping us satiated until our next meal.

In order to keep your energy levels up and help you feel healthy in the long term, your diet needs to feed more than your stomach. It has to satiate your muscles, which crave protein; your digestive system, which runs best with fiber; and your tissues and bones, which work optimally when they're getting vitamins from food.

Mediterranean-style diets appear to accomplish all of those goals and more.

SEE ALSO: I tried a science-backed eating plan tied to a better mood and longer life — and never felt like I was dieting

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7 signs you're dating a narcissist, according to a clinical psychologist

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  • Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a condition characterized by a severe lack of empathy for others, selfishness, and an excessive need for admiration.
  • It can be hard to spot some narcissistic qualities in the person you're dating.
  • An official diagnosis can only be done by a doctor, but there are some telltale signs that indicate someone could be a narcissist.

     

Your significant other brags seemingly 24/7, always knows the 'best' way to do everything, and can't handle criticism. Sound familiar? You may be dating a narcissist.

About 6% of the population has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), which affects more men than women— 7.7% vs 4.8%, according to research published in The Journal of Clinical Psychiatry.

Business Insider spoke to Dr. Gene Beresin, executive director at The Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds at Massachusetts General Hospital and Dr. Forrest Talley, a California-based clinical psychologist to identify warning signs that you may be dating someone with NPD.

An official diagnosis can only be done by a doctor, but here are a red flags to look our for:

SEE ALSO: How to know if you or someone you know is a narcissist, according to a clinical psychologist

They only like to talk about themselves

If you're dating someone extremely self absorbed, your date night conversation will most likely revolve around his or her achievements, success, and interests.

"The narcissist will often appear bored when talking about you, or change the subject to focus on them," Beresin said. "Sometimes they are good listeners, but only when it enhances their own needs and desires."



They want you to provide them with constant praise

Narcissists always want to be the center of attention and will expect their S.O. to acknowledge their achievements, talents, and appearance at all times. (Yes, even when you are at a social get-together.)

According to Beresin, your relationship may suffer if you don't dote on him or her. They may take offense if you show any sign of disapproval, disagree with what they say, or if you question how great they are.



They are demeaning towards other people

Egocentrics often obsess over the negative aspects of other peoples lives. Even their close friends and family members may not be spared from the judgment. Narcissists often think they can do a better job than others, which reinforces the belief that they are always right.



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Sarah Huckabee Sanders chokes up when kid at White House press briefing asks about school shootings

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  • The White House press secretary, Sarah Huckabee Sanders, got emotional at Wednesday's press briefing when answering a question from a young reporter about school shootings.
  • Sanders said the Trump administration took the issue seriously and would do "every single thing within our power" to prevent more school shootings.
  • There have been nearly two dozen school shootings in the US so far this year in which someone was hurt or killed, according to CNN. 

The White House press secretary, Sarah Huckabee Sanders, became emotional at Wednesday's press briefing when answering a question from a young reporter about a rash of violence in America's schools.

"At my school, we recently had a lockdown drill," said Benje Choucroun, 13. "One thing that affects mine and other students' mental health is to worry about the fact that we or our friends could get shot at school. Specifically, can you tell me about what the administration has done and will do to prevent these senseless tragedies?"

Choucroun, a student at Marin Country Day School in California, is in Washington covering the White House' Sports and Fitness Day for Time for Kids magazine.

Sanders choked up during her response, saying there is nothing more terrifying than for a child to go to school and not feel safe. She told Choucroun she was sorry he feels that way.

"This administration takes it seriously, and the school-safety commission that the president convened is meeting this week ... to discuss the best ways forward and how we can do every single thing within our power to protect kids in our schools and to make them feel safe and make their parents feel good about dropping them off," Sanders said.

There have been nearly two dozen school shootings in the US so far this year in which someone was hurt or killed, according to a CNN analysis. After a recent shooting at a high school in Santa Fe, Texas, that left 10 people dead, President Donald Trump said the White House would do everything in its power to prevent school shootings.

Trump also said in a speech at the annual meeting of the National Rifle Association in Texas earlier this month that he pledged to uphold Americans' Second Amendment rights.

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Police, suspected scams, and mayhem: Here's what went down at a cryptocurrency influencer award ceremony

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  • Last week, an influencer analytics company threw an award ceremony honoring the top influencers in the cryptocurrency community as a part of New York's blockchain week.
  • The event's disorganization led some in attendance to wonder whether it was all a scam, or just a way for the organizing company to promote itself.

"This is the sketchiest thing I've ever been a part of," says YouTuber Siraj Raval, midway through an awards ceremony billed as an event to honor both himself and other online influencers in the cryptocurrency space.  

We're at the Crypto Influencer Awards Summit, which is taking place as a part of New York's blockchain week in lower Manhattan. Some of the most influential cryptocurrency evangelists on the internet have flown in to the city to receive awards in categories like "Best Crypto Musician," "Most Relatable," "Best Video Production," and "Most Funny."

Influencers like writer and producer Taryn Southern, crypto rappers TeamHODL and Coin Daddy, and YouTubers like Crypto Blood, Crypto Bobby, Cryptonauts, and I Love Crypto are all being honored for their efforts in spreading the gospel of the blockchain online.

Everyone is kinda famous — even the people who aren't famous are treated like they might be. One man, who volunteered to help set up the event so that he wouldn't have to pay $600 for a ticket, is handed a medal honoring him for his work in "Best Miscellaneous Category." (Later, he said that the event's host asked him to return the medal because they needed it back.)

When a guest asks me to take his photo with Siraj Raval, I ask if he likes Raval's YouTube videos.

"I've never seen them," the man admits. He then explains that he wants a photo because Raval seems like he might be famous.

I am also momentarily mistaken for an internet celebrity. At one point, a would-be fan approaches me, seemingly star struck: "I absolutely love your channel," he says.

When I tell him that I've never posted a video to YouTube in my life, he shrugs.

"Hm," he says. "I could have sworn it was you."

In the lobby, a crowd of mostly men wearing t-shirts adorned with blockchain start-up logos are chatting excitedly about the technology. Everyone seems to know each other or have heard of each other from the internet. ("This is like a chatroom, but IRL," one influencer observes.)

A beautiful woman shyly approaches a crypto rap artist called Coin Daddy.

"Coin Daddy, I need to talk to you," she says, softly. "I need you to help me make money."

In the cryptocurrency community, online influencers are a sought-after commodity. 

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During one panel that takes place early on, Siraj Raval, whose channel has close to 400,000 subscribers, says that he's repeatedly dogged with emails requesting him to feature tokens for upcoming initial coin offerings, or ICOs. Taryn Southern also says that she's constantly asked to promote tokens on her channel. 

For influencers, endorsing ICOs is a lucrative but dicey market. Raval says that he charges around $50,000 to post a 20-minute explainer video on his channel discussing a company's token offering. While marketing ICOs is a profitable business, Raval says he seldom endorses companies that approach him with unsolicited requests.

"There's a lot of fishy ICOs out there," one influencer says. "And if they're not outright scams, then at the very least they're sketchy."

An entire panel at the conference is dedicated to determining whether or not a token offering is a potential scam. 

"If Vitalik [Buterin, the founder of ethereum] is listed as an advisor, that's a white flag," one speaker advises.

Fraud is so endemic within the cryptocurrency community that counterfeit coin offerings are now commonly referred to as "pump and dump schemes," and often involve a few ringleaders who generate interest in a token. Once enough people have bought in, the organizers rapidly sell off their investment and evaporate from the internet with their newfound profits.

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For anyone hosting an ICO — legitimate or otherwise  elevating public awareness is crucial. In the past few months, efforts to crowdsource cryptocurrency capital have ranged from ingenious to bizarre: Some companies have paid people to write token names on their bodies and share the photos online while others have seemingly absconded with their investors' cash, all in the name of raising awareness.

One of the most popular ways to attract public interest in an ICO is through online influencers. In the cryptocurrency community, influencers are regarded by many as having some of the most important opinions in the industry. As public figures, their leverage is considered so invaluable that several of the event's attendees told Business Insider that they paid $5,000 to pitch their company's token in front of the crowd for a few short minutes. (For comparison, a startup employee said that their company paid $10,000 to rent a booth for a full three days at New York's blockchain conference Consensus.)

Endorsement from an influencer with hundreds of thousands of followers can elevate a token's public profile, even if that endorsement is only tacitly implied.

At the Crypto Influencer Awards Summit, one influencer told Business Insider that a fan asked to take her photo. When she agreed, she said that he positioned her in front of his company's logo so that it would appear as though she was a supporter of his product.

Antics like this are fairly common, another influencer said.

The influencer said that he's heard of people putting mining rigs with their company's logos in busy neighborhoods and asking bypassers to pick up the rig so they can guess how much it weighs. When the person complies, they snap a photo of them holding the rig, and use the photo to showcase outside interest in the company.

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Midway through the Crypto Influencer Awards Summit, a strain of skepticism surrounding the event's legitimacy begins to emerge.

So far, the proceedings have been so disorganized that one of the influencers in attendance posted a video of the event entitled "Most Awkward Conference Start Ever" to YouTube.

For an event where the cheapest tickets cost as much as Hamilton seats, I'm not sure what I expected from the awards ceremony, but this certainly isn't it. 

Admittedly, everyone still seems to be having a good time, mostly because no one is really paying attention to the panels taking place at the front of the room. The YouTube stars in attendance have expansive and charismatic personalities, and the expectation that they sit quietly and listen is equal parts ridiculous and impossible. 

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People are milling about and talking loudly. The host, wearing a foam Statue of Liberty crown, interrupts the panelists again and again to remind people, in increasingly strenuous tones, to please sit down and be quiet. For the most part, her pleas are ignored. 

But despite the amount of fun everyone seems to be having, people are beginning to remark that the event is, to say the least, very weird.

Small, strange incongruities are adding up: A few of the celebrated guests who haven't been alerted to a last-minute change in venue show up nearly an hour late. Even though the event cost hundreds of dollars to attend, no one seems to be checking tickets. (No one checked whether or not I had a press pass, and I simply walked in.)

Miscellaneous suitcases are scattered haphazardly throughout the venue's back rooms, where private meetings are taking place. A guest says that the event's organizer has spent the better part of the evening outside, arguing with the police. Drinks are covertly poured into red plastic SOLO cups from behind a fold-up table throughout most of the night. A hallway bathroom has no mirror, no toilet paper, no paper towels, and somewhat mysteriously, no toilet seat. 

 Adam Charles, the marketing manager of the host company Boosto, later said that the NYPD made four separate visits to the venue, the Hudson Club, due to issues with entertainment and alcohol permits. He said he wasn't aware that the venue may not have had the appropriate licenses to host an event with alcohol and music. 

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When a man wearing a gold plastic crown takes to the stage midway through the proceedings, and shouts that everyone should buy bitcoin, and only bitcoin, he is roundly heckled by the crowd.

"If you don't have bitcoin, you should go," he shouts into the mic. "You should leave here."

He continues: "We organize everyone here, for what? Just so they can buy your coin." 

"Who is that guy?" I ask one heckler in the audience.

"Some Chinese bitcoin whale," he replies. (Later, the event's host, Heidi Yu, identified the man as the prolific Chinese bitcoin miner Chandler Guo, and said that his appearance on the stage was intended to be a joke. She also said that she regretted allowing him to speak. Guo himself did not respond to a request for comment.) 

Some of the influencers wonder aloud whether or not the event has been thrown for the express purpose of raising awareness for the host company's forthcoming ICO.

YouTuber Omar Bham tells me that skepticism surrounding the event began even before the evening's official proceedings kicked off. He points out a tweet posted by the influential entrepreneur and bitcoin advocate Andreas Antonopoulos who, weeks earlier, wrote that people should boycott the event because of its misleading advertising.

The Crypto Influencer Awards prominently displayed the logos of several top influencers on its site, even though they hadn't confirmed their attendance. Boosto also advertised media partnerships with various publications, including Business Insider, on the page's event invitation, even though such a partnership didn't exist. When asked why Boosto advertised Business Insider's logo on its site as a media partnership, the company's marketing manager, Adam Charles, said he thought that anyone attending the event would like what he called "free promotion." 

"If we give out media passes, we put a media partnership on the site," said Charles. "I guess we should maybe ask for clarification in writing in the future. We're still learning."

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Online, other cryptocurrency thought leaders decried the event as "despicable and deceitful."

At one point in the evening, the host, Heidi Yu, took to the stage to address the murmurs within the crowd. With the microphone in hand, Yu announced that the event was not a scam. 

"Let me tell you guys, this is legitimate," she said. 

Phu Styles, founder of the Women in Blockchain Foundation and an active figure in the cryptocurrency community, said that it's not unusual for last-minute changes to take place at cryptocurrency conferences because the industry tends to be incredibly fast-paced. Bigger than expected crowds and changes in the lineup are all par for the course. 

Another influencer who received an award said that the event was weird, but that its strangeness was only to be expected.

"This is the blockchain," he said. "This is why it's called the Wild West, right?"

Team Hodl

The frontman behind the crypto rap group TeamHODL, who performed at the event and goes by the nickname "Hashbrown," said he was pleased that Boosto had paid for his hotel room and plane ticket to New York. Many of the other crypto influencers who attended the event also said that Boosto compensated them for their airfare and lodging costs.

"They could have planned it better," said Hashbrown. "But I think they're genuine. At the heart of it, they're doing right by crypto."

A few days later, I called up Siraj Raval and asked him what he thought about the Crypto Influencer Awards Summit in retrospect.

"Yeah, I think they might have hosted the event just to promote their brand," he said. "If that's what they were doing, then it's a pretty smart idea. It worked, right? I came. You came. At the very least, we all showed up for it."

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Omar Bham posted a video to his channel Cyrpt0 a few days later, saying that he thought the event was misleading. 

"[A lot of people] were saying that this whole conference was a scam," Bham says in the video. "I would argue, you know, you might be right. Some people paid $500 just so they could get into this room...It was an odd event."

He goes on: "It's the question of what do you get out of it? I think that's a lot of what could be a scam, which is something that's misleading in my opinion: Someone promising you something and then giving you something else. I think that's what you can call a scam."

When I asked Adam Charles what he thought about the fact that some at the event suspected it might have been a scam, he said that he was hurt by this assumption and that the event's issues were due to a last-minute change in venue that was beyond his control. He also said that he was actively reaching out to the influencers who attended to see how he might be able to improve Boosto's event participation in the future.

"The ironic thing is that I'm sick of people getting scammed," he said. "I made the cryptocurrency influencer website so that we could point out the influencers people can trust online so that they don't get scammed."

Charles said that many people interested in learning about cryptocurrencies rely exclusively on YouTube influencers for their information. 

"The thing is that crypto is so new, and all of these crypto influencers suddenly popped up out of nowhere and people don't know who to trust," he said. "I hate banks, and I hate scams. That's the whole reason I'm into crypto."

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Costco employees share 25 things they'd love to tell shoppers but can't

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  • Costco membership can go to some people's heads, according to workers.
  • Business Insider reached out to 42 Costco employees to find out what they wish they could tell shoppers but can't.
  • Common requests were to control your kids, hang up your phone, and help unload the cart.

Costco membership comes with some obvious perks — namely, access to the retail chain and its food court.

But according to dozens of Costco workers who spoke with Business Insider, being a member doesn't entitle you to do whatever you want.

While Costco made Glassdoor's list of best places to work in 2017, employees still had several complaints about shoppers' rude and inconvenient behavior.

Business Insider spoke to 42 Costco employees about the things they want to tell members but can't. Some of their responses focused on obvious problems, like members being mean and inconsiderate. But some of the tips were more instructive.

Here's what they had to say.

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Have your membership card ready at the door

"Concentrate on handing me your membership card instead of telling me a story," a Costco employee in Minnesota told Business Insider. "I can listen to your story as I do whatever you need me to do, but I can't do that until I have your membership card."



Don't trash the warehouse

A Costco employee from Arizona told Business Insider that they wanted to tell members to stop leaving "sample cups all over the floor." "Don't be rude," the employee said. "Clean after yourself."



Put back items you've picked up

"Please put back that item that you just threw there," a Costco worker from California told Business Insider. "It doesn't belong there."

Eight other Costco employees also told Business Insider that they judged members who left products strewn about the store.



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Wearing glasses could really mean you're smarter, according to a new study

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  • There could be some truth to the idea that smart people wear glasses.
  • Research has consistently associated poor eyesight with higher cognitive function, and a new study adds to the body of evidence.
  • But there are several reasons the association exists in the first place.
  • Also, it's important to note that intelligence is subjective and many genetic and environmental factors are at play.


Nerds wear glasses — or that's what society taught us to believe growing up. In TV shows and movies, the clever characters almost always have bad eyesight. You can probably think of a few kids in your school classes who followed the trend, too.

There are a few theories for where the association came from, some of which are discussed in a thread on Quora. One is that if you have bad eyesight, you're more likely to sit at the front and easily ignore the people behind you, leading to better learning.

Another is that having an accessory on your face immediately makes you look different and thus an outsider — and kids aren't always nice to those. So perhaps in lieu of popularity, kids with glasses turn to books and academia. Additionally, as pointed out by an article in Inverse, people who can't see well aren't likely to be as involved in sports, which can be isolating at school.

According to a new study, published in the journal Nature Communications, the association may run deeper at the genetic level. The research found an association with mypoia — the scientific work for shortsightedness — and greater cognitive function.

Bad eyesight being linked to intelligence is a good headline, so it has been picked up on in the news, but the study actually looked at many genetic characteristics that were related to having better cognitive function.

The researchers, led by Gail Davies from the University of Edinburgh, analysed data from over 300,000 people aged between 16 and 102 who had taken part in previous studies in Europe, North America, and Australia.

"This study, the largest genetic study of cognitive function, has identified many genetic differences that contribute to the heritability of thinking skills," she said. "The discovery of shared genetic effects on health outcomes and brain structure provides a foundation for exploring the mechanisms by which these differences influence thinking skills throughout a lifetime."

Overall, there were 148 regions of DNA that were associated with having better cognitive function, 58 of which have never been reported before. And one of the specifics was how subjects with high cognitive ability were about 30% more likely to have genes associated with bad eyesight than others, according to the results.

As well as supposedly higher intelligence, the genetic factors associated with higher cognitive function also seemed to be linked to better cardiovascular heath, decreased risk of lung cancer, better mental health, and living longer.

The study didn't investigate the causation for the findings. According to another lead researcher, Ian Deary, more research is needed to see the bigger picture, but the findings could help with understanding brain diseases like Alzheimer's.

"We also need to study our results closely to see what they can tell us about the possibility of understanding the declines in cognitive function that happen with illness and in older age," he said.

This study wasn't the first to find the association between poor eyesight and cognitive function, as myopia has been consistently associated with intelligence. For example one paper, published in the Lancet in 1988, found that out of 5,943 poor sighted and 9,891 regular sighted 18-year-old men, those with myopia had significantly higher test scores and educational levels.

The exact reasons are not known, and it's worth mentioning that intelligence is highly subjective and almost impossible to measure. Also, there are so many factors, both genetic and environmental, that contribute to how someone's brain turns out.

What is clear, though, is that the association doesn't seem to be going away any time soon. There is evidence that wearing glasses whether you need to or not makes people think you're more intelligent anyway, which is why defense lawyers recommend clients wear them during a trial.

In other words, whether it's based on genetic truth or not, glasses are an easy prop to convey intelligence. And if used in real life, or on screen, the majority of your audience will understand what you're getting at.

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People in China can now file for divorce on the WeChat instant messaging app

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  • WeChat, China's most popular instant messaging app, now allows people to register for divorce.
  • The function is being trialed in Guangdong province, but there are plans to it further.
  • Take a look at how it works below.


People in China can now file for divorce on WeChat, the country's most popular instant messaging service.

The app rolled out a trial "divorce" functionality in Guangdong province, which is home to major cities including Guangzhou and Shenzhen.

Couples who no longer want to be together can now make an appointment with their local divorce registration office under WeChat's new function, which was rolled out about two weeks ago.

We first noticed the new function via a tweet by Matthew Brennan, a WeChat expert living in China.

How it works

The left screen in the picture below shows the generic document home screen, which allows you to personal documents for all sorts of purposes.

Scroll further down, and under the subtitle "Marriage" is a function that says: "Make an appointment for divorce registration," as can be seen in the right screen.

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The app then takes you to a page where you tell it whether you're currently living in China or somewhere else.

Then you can enter personal details of the people getting divorced, including names and addresses. Then you can make an appointment with the local divorce registrar.

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Brennan, the WeChat expert, told Business Insider that making appointments was "pretty typical functionality that we find in WeChat."

He added: "It's also very typical that payments can also be handled directly through WeChat, although without going through the process, it's unclear if this is an option right now."

Filing for divorce is just one of WeChat's many new functions. Users in the province can also store driving permits and passport copies, and manage their tax documents. They can also apply for marriage licence.

Which such functions are only available to Guangdong citizens, WeChat's developer Tencent is aiming to roll them out across China in the future, Brennan told Business Insider.

The influence of WeChat, an app used by one billion active users worldwide, is growing in users' daily lives. Last year a judge in Nanjing, east China, called a woman on WeChat during court proceedings when she failed to turn up.

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Thailand's famous beach from 'The Beach' is closing after damage by too many tourists

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  • Thailand's Maya Bay, made famous in the 2000 film "The Beach," is closing to tourists for the first time.
  • The crowds it attracts have damaged the beach and its surroundings, according to Thailand's national parks department.
  • The beach now is also unlike the one depicted in the film because of crowds, litter, and the noise of boat engines, the BBC reported.
  • It will close on Friday and is set to reopen on September 30. 

Thailand's Maya Bay, made famous in the 2000 film "The Beach," is closing on Friday because it has been damaged by too many tourists.

A bucket-list tropical spot for travellers, the stunning beach became extra popular with visitors after Leonardo DiCaprio graced its shores in Danny Boyle's film.

But all the trips to Maya Bay have damaged the beach and its surroundings, according to environmentalists.

The BBC reported that Thai authorities would close the beach, a short strip of land on the island of Ko Phi Phi Leh, to tourists for the first time to give it "a chance to recover from the strain of thousands of daily visitors."

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The beach today is also unlike the one depicted in the film, as it is much more crowded and "definitely not relaxing," the BBC said, with the sound of boat engines in the background and some litter on the sand.

One 23-year-old tourist, Lara Vogelsberg, told the BBC: "The beach in the film is very relaxing, there are no people to be seen, and you get this idea of a very lonely place in the middle of nowhere. Then you come here and you think you're in Times Square in New York."

You can watch the trailer for "The Beach" here:

Thon Thamrongnawasawat, an adviser to Thailand's national parks department, told the BBC: "We are a beautiful country, but we have to protect our natural resources."

He added: "We have significant information that all the boats that come in and out really impact the coral reef."

In a notice, the department also acknowledged "the deterioration of the ecosystem in the area of Maya Bay."

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However, as tourism is a massive source of income for Thailand — about 467,000 UK tourists visited the country in 2016 — the beach won't be closed forever. It's set to reopen on September 30.

"We won't close it to tourism forever but have to do something to save our sea, and we have to start at Maya Bay," Thamrongnawasawat told the BBC.

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The psychological reasons why we want what we can't have — and why we chase someone who pulls away

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  • Sometimes it can feel like you're always chasing something you can't have.
  • It can feel like the more someone pulls away, the more you end up wanting them.
  • This is partly due to our vanity and self-esteem, and partly due to our warped sense of their value.
  • In reality, their perceived value is all in your head, and you're better off pursuing people who actually respect you enough to be honest.
  • It's easier said than done, though.


"Too often, the thing you want most is the one thing you can't have," said Meredith Grey in the show "Grey's Anatomy." "Desire leaves us heartbroken, it wears us out. Desire can wreck your life."

This will sound all too familiar for people who always seem to be chasing things they can't have. It might be a dream job, or it could be a person — either way, when something is out of reach, they want it that much more.

You might have started dating someone, and thought things were going well. You were attracted to each other, and you were under every impression things were progressing in the right direction. Then they started to pull away, and instead of letting them go, you started bombarding them with messages and calls.

You could feel them slipping further away, but you couldn't control that burning desire to fix whatever went wrong. Predictably, the more they distance themselves, the more you chase them, until eventually they're gone for good.

We place more perceived value on people who are busy

Erika Ettin, the founder of dating website A Little Nudge, has a theory for why we behave this way.

"The less someone responds or reciprocates to one's advances, the more perceived value the pursuer thinks this person has," she said. "So we try harder since this person must really be 'worth it' if he or she is in such high demand — in other words, this person is a scarce resource."

If someone is busy, our minds can go into overdrive thinking they must be spending time with other people. They're obviously popular, so something primal in our brain can make us think they are more valuable than they really are.

In fact, Ettin said that often this means we start to place more value on the other person than we do ourselves. But if someone isn't being honest with you, she said, they simply aren't worth your time,

"This person's lack of response, though, should not imply a higher value," she said. "Rather, at its simplest, it should imply a lack of proper communication... or just rudeness."

Unfortunately, walking away is much easier said than done. When we like someone, our brain will release the hormone dopamine when they appear in our messages, or ask to see us.

We can get hooked on this happy hormone, and start chasing the high, like a drug. If we get intermittent attention from someone, it's all the more addictive than if we got it all the time.

We are susceptible to 'breadcrumbing'

"Our brains love the unpredictability because the highs are higher than if we got the desired reward all the time," Ettin said. "This is why breadcrumbing has sadly entered our lexicon recently."

Breadcrumbing is when someone texts or calls on a sporadic basis, normally because they know you will respond. They will seem to be pursuing you, but in reality have no intention of being tied down to a relationship. They just like leaving you breadcrumbs, like a trail in Hansel and Gretel, to string you along.

Thanks to the dopamine, we let people treat us this way, because the reward feels so good on the rare occasions we get it.

"With the extra dopamine, though, comes added anxiety," she said. "'When is he going to text?' 'I haven't heard from her in three days, and I know she's back from her weekend trip by now.' 'If he wants to go out this weekend, he needs to ask since it's already Friday afternoon.' Is that a worthwhile trade-off? I say no."

It can be incredibly tempting to fall for the thrill of the chase, particularly because our vanity can drive us to keep pursuing someone who just isn't interested. But if you can pull yourself away, and devote your time and energy to what you do have rather than what you don’t, you're likely to save yourself a lot of heartache in the end.

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This is the biggest style mistake Roger Federer has ever made — and it still haunts him to this day

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  • Roger Federer, renowned for his style, reflected on his biggest fashion faux pas in an interview with GQ.
  • Federer said he made a glaring wardrobe malfunction over 10 years ago that was picked up by the British press.
  • Apparently, the error still haunts him to this day. 

The Grand Slam tennis champion Roger Federer is renowned for his finesse and style on and off the court, but the 36-year-old is still haunted by a fashion faux pas he made over 10 years ago.

Federer is often seen on the red carpet wearing a tailored suit with a matching tie and manicured hair. He has welcomed comparisons to James Bond, said he would relish seeing Leonardo DiCaprio play him in a biopic, and claimed he would never ever dress like Rafa Nadal.

Federer has picked up 20 of the major titles in the sport and has the celebrity appeal to match — but in an interview with GQ published Wednesday, Federer acknowledged he had been guilty of making public howlers.

Federer recalled what he said was an "embarrassing" wardrobe malfunction at a Wimbledon ceremony that was picked up by the British media.

"Back in 2005 or 2006, I was so excited I won, I wanted to put on the whole outfit that we'd made together," he told GQ. "I went to receive the trophy, and as I walk down I'm a bit nervous, and as I put my hands in my pockets I realise that the pockets are going backwards.

"I was like: 'It's too late! I can't change them anymore!' I lifted the trophy, and the pants were on backwards. You could hardly see it, but I think one British media picked it up and were like: 'What's going on? He's got the zipper at the back.'"

The incident actually occurred in 2007 — and there's photo evidence:

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Federer added: "That was quite embarrassing!"

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Federer has not played competitive tennis since a second-round loss to Thanasi Kokkinakis at the Miami Open in March. He decided to skip the clay season so he could be as fit and as fresh for Wimbledon, which starts in July.

Hopefully this time he'll wear his trousers the right way round.

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